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To just be so fucking mad!

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MoveOnMolly · 15/08/2019 12:53

At a post on Facebook when really it's nothing to do with me.

Used to be very good friends with a guy (actually lived with me and my parents for a while whilst he was having troubles when we were growing up) who I distanced myself from a few years ago because of the way he treated his child.

He had a baby when we were in early to mid 20s and basically as soon as problems started in the relationship he just stopped seeing his child, told everyone it was for the best because then they wouldn't grow up with arguing parents etc...

I've known him for a long time, he can be very selfish and I know it's because it's easier for him to walk away, nothing to do with what he thinks is best for his child.

Anyway, I distanced myself from him because I said I didn't like the way he was behaving and couldn't agree with what he'd done.

He's now not seen his child for around 3 years. I've just seen a post on Facebook that he is now having another baby with another girl he's only just met.

I'm just so fucking mad. It's none of my business I know but it's also very personal at the moment because I'm having lots of fertility issues and have experienced a few pregnancy losses which have been devastating to me and my H. So yeah I'm really fucking jealous that people like this can have children they never bother with and yet others who would give anything to be a parent, struggle.

I'm not going to say anything obviously, I'm not going to get involved or bad mouth or anything but internally I just want to scream at the injustice of it all but as I am supposed to be a composed professional, I will just have to rant on here instead!!

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MoveOnMolly · 15/08/2019 16:46

The thing is with the 'growing up and maturing more' thing is that it's only been about 3 and a half years, 4 max since his last child was born. It's not like he was some young teen and it was 10 years ago, it was a few years ago!

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MisterOnion · 15/08/2019 16:51

Definitely NBU. It's irritating, especially when you know someone's past (and obviously their present since they have a child) and are acting like they're a changed man.

DP best friend is the same as you've described (even though DP is completely different). Doesn't bother with kids he has (3 to 3 different women) because he prefers his own little life doing what he wants. Then goes and gets other girls he barely knows pregnant, and justifies it by saying 'it's ok, she's getting rid anyway'.

Really don't understand why DP is friends with him, he's vile.

MoveOnMolly · 15/08/2019 19:36

and are acting like they're a changed man

Absolutely. It's so unfair. It's like his other child has just been completely erased Angry

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