AIBU to leave her and go on my own

[ThatPairOfCats]

Last day of the holidays here, DD 14 requested a trip to the city and we need to leave in half an hour. She is still in her bed despite being told to get up various times since half seven. She knows what time we need to leave. AIBU to leave her and go on my own? No concerns about leaving her at home all day as family are near by.

Feel a bit guilty but I got up early to get organised so don't want to waste the day.

Tell her you are leaving in half an hour with or without her.

It’s fine but you need to tell her that you will be leaving at 10.30 and if she not ready then will have to make her own way there.

Yep, go.

She’ll be the one who doesn’t turn up for work, let’s down her friends, and knows her mother can be played if you don’t!

Leave her

But if you weren’t leaving until 10.30 why did you need to wake her up at 7.30?

Shirley she asked to get woken up so she had plenty time to get ready...
She has been warned I'm going for with it without her!

It’s horrible for you but it’s a life lesson for her. Go and treat yourself and have fun.

Personally I wouldn’t even say she could meet you later!

Oh and say nothing. Don’t rub it in (she’ll see the shopping bags when you return) and say “you could have come if...”. That will just make her more determined to be in the right. Let her come to her own conclusion about that. A simple “You weren’t up” or even change of subject when she moans will be suffice.

Id go without her xx

She's 14; she's old enough to set an alarm and wake herself up.

Did you actually wake her though and she's just not got up? If so, go by yourself, but be prepared for the mother of all sulks when you get back.

Have fun!

Sorry, saw you'd told her to get up several times. Definitely leave the lazy madam to her bed in that case.

Go, 100% guilt free.

And as a previous poster suggests, look surprised when she brings it up late. Don’t let it become ‘a thing’. No ‘well now you know I’m serious’ stuff. Best lessons are the ones only you have to define as such.

And for the love of all things sane, don’t bloody buy her anything. Seriously. Feel free to drop a couple of ‘things I saw’ into dinner conversation a week from now. Be lighthearted about the whole trip, and go with ‘confused’ and quickly ‘bored’ if she makes a scene.

Have fun! Enjoy the lack of eye-rolling!

*later

Enjoy your day.

Hope you've gone without her if she wasn't up

Hope you left the lazy bones there.
That'll learn her.