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DH's Ex in laws staying am I being curmudgeonly?

41 replies

TrumpInflatableChased · 15/08/2019 09:01

They are perfectly nice people, 4 of them, aunt of DH's ex (11 years's ex) and her house is tiny. My DH knows them well. They aren't any trouble.

But 10 days?

I'm saying I don't want to have sex while there's people I don't really know in the house. It's not that soundproof. So I reckon he needs to engineer a time for them out the house. He thinks I'm being precious.

Though there's a bit of me thinking if we had really noisy sex they might spend a bit more time out of the house.....

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KurriKurri · 15/08/2019 09:07

Did you agree to have them stay ? If you did then YABU wanting them to leave if they are no trouble.

If you are uncomfortable having sex while they are in the house, don't have sex - nothing will shrivel up or fall off in ten days. No Sex is not incompatible with life.

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TrumpInflatableChased · 15/08/2019 09:13

Well I agreed to them staying for a week while we were on holiday, but then it turns out they are staying for longer than we thought....which is fine.

So, I'm being curmeodgenly. And I'm not sure my DH agrees -he's pretty convinced that it might fall off!

OP posts:
KurriKurri · 15/08/2019 09:15
Grin
BertrandRussell · 15/08/2019 09:15

No sex for 10 days? Quelle horreur!

SinkGirl · 15/08/2019 09:16

Stressing about no sex for ten days?

😂😂😂😂

You’ll live.

Chickychoccyegg · 15/08/2019 09:19

No way would i be having anyone to stay for 10 days, thats way too long and taking the piss,no matter how nice they are! i could easily go 10 days without sex so I'd have no problem waiting until they left, but if you want to make sure they don't stay with you again, lots of noisey sex could work Grin

luckygreeneyes · 15/08/2019 09:19

Do the have a child together? If it’s his DCs grandparents then i kind of get it, ish, I wouldn’t be thrilled though.

However, YANBU for your use of the word curmudgeonly- you don’t hear that anywhere near enough 😊

luckygreeneyes · 15/08/2019 09:20

Also, I have a 3 night limit on any house guests of any kind

MyOtherProfile · 15/08/2019 09:25

So have they stayed for a week while you're away and then extended? Or have I read that wrong? And why can't they stay with the ex?

verticality · 15/08/2019 09:27

Just do it quietly? It's not that hard!

Rainbunny · 15/08/2019 09:29

Sorry but I think you'll have to grin and bear it. Next time however you should place a firm limit on how long they can stay -10 days sounds absolutely hellish to me and that includes anyone staying that long!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 15/08/2019 09:29

So you're away for a week of the 10 days? What exactly is the issue here? No sex for 3 days? Seriously?

EnterFunnyNameHere · 15/08/2019 09:30

@verticality if it's not that hard, no wonder you can do it quietly!

Grin
diddl · 15/08/2019 09:30

You don't want to have sex while they're there?

Fine imo.

Why should anyone ever have sex if they don't feel comfortable doing so?

Quartz2208 · 15/08/2019 09:32

He is pretty convinced it will fall off how old is he 13?

He invited them to stay and you are not comfortable what is there to discusd

ElstreeViaduct · 15/08/2019 09:32

I'm with lucky. Anyone who uses "curmudgeonly" in a real sentence had my full support in all things.

Juells · 15/08/2019 09:35

I'd consider that a terrible cheek. Don't like having anyone apart from siblings or daughters staying anyway, so I wouldn't have agreed in the first place. Ten days? Ten fucking days?!? Were they to stay for a week while you were away, then extended for another ten days? That's a hell of a cheek and an imposition.

Tooner · 15/08/2019 09:40

Tough titties to him I say. If he wants to let them stay longer then he has to do without if you're not comfortable with it. They have a cheek.

StinkinDrink · 15/08/2019 09:43

Curmudgeonly? Hmm

Cassilis · 15/08/2019 09:46

YANBU I wouldn’t want my DH’s ex’s ILs staying at all! Tell them they stay the week onlyor not at all.

dontgobaconmyheart · 15/08/2019 09:48

Why are they even there OP- what is the occasion so to speak? It is weird- that's a long time to stay in someone else's house, who would even want to! Confused

Re: the sex issue-If you genuinely don't feel comfortable doing it in the circumstances then just don't do so. Its 10 days so what does it even matter either way surely. Would you be/do you if it were guests you knew or your own guests?

Original poster
TrumpInflatableChased · 15/08/2019 09:48

Bows for the acknowledgement of curmudgeonly - it's a sadly underused word.

DH 13 - as far as sex is concerned - yes.

It was all a bit of a miscommunication about how long they were staying. They are nice and really no trouble but I don't really know them.

OP posts:
TatianaLarina · 15/08/2019 09:50

If DH gets no sex while they’re staying he probably won’t invite them again. Wink

BykerBykerOoh · 15/08/2019 09:52

T
You know what they say about fish and guests....

Although it’s a refreshing change from the headache excuse. Maybe I’ll invite some in laws over next week.

NoSauce · 15/08/2019 09:55

Put the radio on in your bedroom and have quiet sex or take DH into the shed or garage to look for something and do it there Wink

10 days is a hell of a long time for guests. You’re a saint OP.

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