To think having Kik is a bad sign?

[justsoap]

My best friend recently found her dp had been messaging girls from a NSFW subreddit called gonewild, he had been paying them money via PayPal for personalized nude photos and videos as well as sending them dick pics.

She's devastated, (2 babies), and obviously didn't realize that's why he had the kik app. Her dp plays football after work and apparently all the team, with wives and gf's, do exactly the same, sexting and buying nudes from girls on Reddit and Snapchat. None of them know what their partners are up to, but apparently it's a big thing now, and kind of replacing average porn.

I asked my dp about it and he has said that yes, over the last year or so a lot of the guys he knows are using kik to solicit pictures and then showing/ comparing them around the warehouse he works in.🙄.

My other friend has realized her dp also has kik and is now really worried he's up to the same thing.

There's also a thread on relationships about the same thing.

Aibu to think if someone has the kik app it's not looking good, is it?

Having kik can be a bad sign.

I’d be very surprised if they are all paying for nudes though. There’s plenty out there swapping them for free. That smacks of “all the lads do it, honest” to me

In your position, I'd be pretty concerned my partner was doing the same.

YANBU

It’s rife!

(I’ve also posted on that other thread). My eyes have been well and truly opened because of Kik. You are correct in that it is replacing ‘regular’ porn

Men always want that next step up and through Kik they are getting the interaction

Yuck. I’d never heard of it until now. Definitely sounds dodgy though.

I have access to dp's phone, as he does mine, but I never check it.. Starting to worry now, he doesn't seem the type and told me all about his work mates, like he has nothing to hide. Neither did my best friends mate seem the type either.

Regular porn is one thing but this is way too far, imo, I do see it as cheating.

When a guy tells you about what his mates do, most of the time he's doing the same.

My friends DH denied having kik for ages. It wasn’t until she went into his App Store that she could tell that it had been downloaded. He just deleted it every day on his way home from work and then reinstalled in the morning.

With having no number involved there’s no risk of a pocket dial or anything like that.