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To let them kill each other?

98 replies

AnnonniMoose · 14/08/2019 21:03

Endless school holidays. Children - constantly bickering and trying to kill each other.

WIBU to just let them get on with it so I can have some peace & quiet?

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ZenNudist · 14/08/2019 23:04

I have found my people. Today I hit peak summer holidays.
Mine are in clubs whilst I work but the time I have spent with them has been murder. I should learn not to do anything nice for them. They are overindulged over tired and in need of routine.

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AnnonniMoose · 14/08/2019 23:05

@Iwantacookie - that won't work here, as I just get told I can't tell them what to do and they don't have to listen to me. Sigh again. They're starting high school in September, and hopefully hahahahahaha they'll start acting like actual humans instead of hyenas.

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theSnuffster · 14/08/2019 23:06

My two have been so horrible to each other over the last few days. I mean they argue regularly but they've really stepped it up recently. They just won't leave each other alone! I had to send one off to her friends house the other day just to separate them. Within 30 seconds of her arriving home they'd started to fight again! 🙄

GroggyLegs · 14/08/2019 23:14

My mother used to say 'If you are going to fight each other, be prepared to fight to the death. I will not be intervening to save you'

I'll be stealing this. I currently say 'if you choose to rough and tumble I don't want to hear it if you carry on & get hurt' which is completely pathetic in comparison.

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AnnonniMoose · 14/08/2019 23:17

@GroggyLegs - I agree. I usually tell them that if they want to kill each other they should do it in the garden so I don't have to clean up the mess, but I will definitely be using that from now on Grin.

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BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 14/08/2019 23:25

Mine have been off since end of June. My response to everything that starts with ‘mummmmmyyyyy she said/did xxxx’ is ‘I do not give a shit as long as she did it quietly’.

I say care instead of shit, but I mean every single fucking shit at this point.

And that bellend of an ice cream man who drives around my house three times a day? There is a place in hell for you my friend. A special place. Jingly jangly twat.

pandarific · 14/08/2019 23:43

as I just get told I can't tell them what to do and they don't have to listen to me.

I know this is lighthearted op but you need to get out ahead of that kind of disrespect!

Waveysnail · 14/08/2019 23:50

And that bellend of an ice cream man who drives around my house three times a day? There is a place in hell for you my friend. A special place. Jingly jangly twat.

Laughed so much at this

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AnnonniMoose · 14/08/2019 23:55

@pandarific - oh, I don't let them get away with it Grin.

And that bellend of an ice cream man who drives around my house three times a day? There is a place in hell for you my friend. A special place. Jingly jangly twat.

😂😂😂😂

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IslandTulip · 14/08/2019 23:59

WineOclock2019 8 kids under 13! Shock You must be knackered.

Whitelisbon · 15/08/2019 00:00

I put mine out in the garden, in the rain, in their jammies the other day, and told them they could come back in when they could be civilised. Closed the door on the tears, and cried in the kitchen.
They've been relatively nice to each other since.
We're 7 weeks in. 6 sleeps left. The flags are ready to be hung on Tuesday morning when I stick them in the taxi, grinning like a maniac. It can't come quick enough!

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 15/08/2019 00:02

I’d had enough about 3 days in

kateandme · 15/08/2019 00:02

ok i feel we all need to try the looking straight at them and telling them to continue to fight thats fine.to the death fine like pp. and report back if it works.

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AnnonniMoose · 15/08/2019 00:05

In a few weeks' time...

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kateandme · 15/08/2019 00:07

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil

And that bellend of an ice cream man who drives around my house three times a day? There is a place in hell for you my friend. A special place. Jingly jangly twat.

best thing ive ever read ever!

NoClueWithStyle · 15/08/2019 00:18

Oh thank you so much.
I've been feeling really sad about how much I'm working over this school holidays, but you've all put it into perspective. The grass is always greener eh?

Years ago, a poster recommended putting the children in the smallest room and telling them they couldn't come out until they were friends and ready to treat each other properly. Mine had a few stints in the bathroom and to be fair, I only had to threaten it thereafter. I somehow forgot that technique and I only remembered because of this thread.
They are teens now, and it's gone full circle...I often hide out in the bathroom with my phone when they are doing my head in. 😂

Durgasarrow · 15/08/2019 00:27

The answer to that question is always yes.

StoppinBy · 15/08/2019 00:47

I know this is a jokey post but yes they should be able to solve some conflict between them, stepping in to every fight and sorting it out instead of giving them strategies to sort it out themselves will cause them to always involve an adult. Sounds like they are old enough to have you tell them to just sort it out (as long as they don't get violent and actually kill each other lol).

CheshireChat · 15/08/2019 01:09

I think there's something in the air as DS is an only and not even at school yet, however he's been horrendous Angry DP isn't much better.

I remember reading on another thread that apparently primary school children turn feral when it's windy or a full moon so I'm blaming it on that!

SeaToSki · 15/08/2019 01:11

Some amazing Mum told me to tell my dc that when the icecream man plays the song, they have run out of icecream. Still works on my dc... thank god....

SeaToSki · 15/08/2019 01:15

Oh and mine have been on holiday since June 11th and dont go back until Sept 4th (USA) so I am on a whole new level of teeth gritting. I seriously contemplated putting in ear plugs the other day, but resorted to loud music and just miming ‘I cant hear you’ several times - they did give up with the Mum Mum Mum in the end 😬

Quellium · 15/08/2019 01:23

I've really struggled with this holiday. I have a mix of ages but I can't leave the room without one of them starting an argument. I have got nothing done as a result. They don't want to go out and I am going slowly out of my mind.

Also, 'Muuuuummmm, I'm a little bit hungry' every 5 minutes may actually end me.

titnomatani · 15/08/2019 01:35

Hilarious thread! Loved the special place in hell for the jingly jangly twat ice cream man and @ScottishBadger's mum's wise words!

Catladiesaremyheroes · 15/08/2019 01:39

We’re in Ireland this summer.

12-13 weeks for secondary and 8-9 weeks primary schools holidays. 😭

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 15/08/2019 01:42

I take them out at every opportunity. Because when they start behaving like complete and utter shits, I just embarrass them.

So if you've seen a woman bellowing 'STOP!!!! HAMMER TIME!' and doing the asssociated leaping/dance, or trilling at top volume 'THE HIIIIIILLS ARE ALIIIIIVE WITH THE SOUND OF MUUUUUSIC' whilst spinning around on the pavement, that would have been me.

I honestly don't give a shit what people might think, but it stops the DC from acting up in public. Because no matter how badly they behave, I will outdo them in terms of volume.

The bloody food thing though... how the holy fuck do they eat so much??