Childhood photo

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Hi vipers. Bit of an odd one. My adult brother is living at home at the minute. Last night he sent me a photo of myself like squatting, to wee I guess, behind a tree. You can see like all my bum and that. Apparently he had taken it from my mum's photo albums. I spoke to my mum about it and she said it is me, and that I can't have been more than 8, and that my dad probably took it. We're talking late 90s so I guess things were different then. I guess I just found seeing it quite humiliating, I can't imagine taking a picture like that of my LO. I was just wondering if that seems like a normal thing to do to you- to photo your child like that.

P.s. I am not the piss troll I imagine it probably seems like I am.

Yeah I think humiliating people, especially children was a lot more common back then.

Only you know how ‘normal’ that behaviour was in your family though.

Yeah, bullying and humiliation were definitely normal. My mum said it wasn't taken to humiliate me but I can't think of another reason it would be taken IYSWIM

YANBU you need to find an old photo of him to humiliate him with x

I wouldn't like it either, but my mil has a picture of DH on his potty at the beach in about 1976, parents can be very odd.

I think I'm less bothered about my brother (he's a whole other can of worms) than the existence of the photo in the first place.

I do have pictures of my baby sons bum but I feel like there is a world of difference between a baby's bum and a 8 year old! I also think I might be a bit older, maybe my more like ten.

I was born in 1966, so grew up mostly in the seventies and early eighties.

It wasn't normal to take such photos back then. Not in my personal experience anyway.

We had a few of me in the bath, covered by lots of bubbles and playing with my rubber duck and plastic toy boat, but that was as far as it went.

I don't think it was that unusual as, unless you're about 12, family photos would not be expected to be shared far and wide in those days.

The family album at mine is full of me aged about 8 in a paddling pool or whatever topless or twating about in the garden like a small massive twat. I think you’re reading a lot into this. Annually my mum’s Facebook birthday message is a picture of me as a toddler with no nappy on bending over to sniff a flower with my bum out. Amazingly she isn’t a raging paedo and doesn’t hate me. Even if she forgets to tag me in it sometimes and suddenly I see my arse by accident.

But OP, I’m really sorry you feel humiliated, that’s rubbish. But everyone else in your family will just see a silly picture of you when you’re little. And I bet there are similarly embarrassing ones of your brother x

It is odd. They probably thought it was funny at the time, I know my parents had a weird sense of humour when we were kids, silly things not meaning to be malicious but things that affects confidence.

There are a couple of sections of family videos of me or Dsis gallivanting in the full nude, can think of at least one full nude pic of my sis with blooming laundry pegs all over her head.

I know they were just taking pics of funny moments. Only you know why you are so uncomfortable with this - perhaps the environment was less trustful?

One of my daughter's favourite baby photos is her sitting on a potty and one of my son's is his bum as he is going up stairs.
They are younger that 8 but, although unnecessary it's no big deal and not really worth being embarrassed about I don't think.

I don’t think it has to be anything SINISTER to be embarrassed by it, even a la Mumsnet...

He sounds like my Dad - he took photos of anything and everything. I even have one of me when I was dreadfully ill with measles 🙄
I don't think it sounds sinister on its own.