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saucyspice · 14/08/2019 19:13

Housemate who rents my spare room is late twenties and most Saturdays will spend the night away and not here, says he is staying with a friend. However every time he does this he deletes his Facebook account. I can usually see him on 'Nearby Friends' but not when his account is deleted; he will then reactivate around the time he arrives home on Sunday.

Background: he has good job, social life etc and otherwise all seems very normal.

Would it be ok to question him on this behaviour as I just think the deleting of an account specifically for this time period is strange and suggests dodgy behaviour?

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IAskTooManyQuestions · 14/08/2019 19:16

None of your business is it?

JemimaPuddlePeacock · 14/08/2019 19:18

Really isn’t your business. For all you know he likes to sod off into the mountains for some time alone and deactivates social media to facilitate that.

Even if he was doing it for ‘dodgy’ reasons why would it be any of your business as his landlady as long as he’s paying his rent on time and you’re not aware of any criminal activity going on in the house?

Jaguarana · 14/08/2019 19:19

No, it wouldn't be OK to question him. What he does with his Facebook account isn't anything to do with you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/08/2019 19:19

Why would he tell you?

GruciusMalfoy · 14/08/2019 19:20

Not your place to question it really.

Neverender · 14/08/2019 19:22

I'd have to ask why out of interest but on the understanding that it doesn't have anything to do with you really.

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saucyspice · 14/08/2019 19:25

Yes sorry totally understand if he decided not to tell me and it would be his business not mine. However part of me is just so intrigued/concerned/nosy that I want to ask...

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Sparklesocks · 14/08/2019 19:25

None of your business at all. Being your landlord doesn’t mean you have a right to question him about any areas of his life. Is he a good tenant? Does he pay rent on time? Is he clean? Great.

How do you even notice? Do you check his fb profile every time he goes away?

He has a right to privacy.

Zebraaa · 14/08/2019 19:26

This is a gross invasion of privacy. Spying on him on Facebook and thinking you have a right to be nosy. Ugh. I wouldn’t want to live with you.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 14/08/2019 19:27

No it wouldn't be ok to question it.

He probably just wants time away from social media and people thinking they are entitled to know his every move.

herculepoirot2 · 14/08/2019 19:28

No, you need to leave him be.

MrsTommyBanks · 14/08/2019 19:45

It would be really weird to ask imo. I think it's a bit weird that you've even noticed tbh.

Sorrysorrysosorry · 14/08/2019 19:48

I think it's a bit weird that you've even noticed tbh

It really is.

Sandybval · 14/08/2019 19:49

That is intriguing and I'd want to know, but think it would be outrageously intrusive to ask. Unless you maybe said I tried to message you over the weekend but couldn't find you on messenger. Just out of nosiness...

pikapikachu · 14/08/2019 19:51

Definitely don't ask.
It's creepy when you discover someone is FB stalking you.

SoyDora · 14/08/2019 19:55

Surely he’d just turn off his location services if he didn’t want you to know where he was going?

HappyNOTdriving · 14/08/2019 20:02

I doubt he deletes his entire Facebook every weekend it is much more likely he blocks you which from your end would mean his profile disappears.

That to me though would suggest he thinks he has reason to stop you nosing into his life which due to you not only noticing but then thinking about questioning him on it to the point you started a thread about it says to me he has thought right!

Joerev · 14/08/2019 20:09

How on earth do you even know this about his Facebook?!?

Means you’ve snooped more than twice each time he’s disappeared. Now why did you do that?

For the love of god don’t ask him. You’d be pushing it immensely and I would think it almost stalkerish if my landlord questioned me on my whereabouts and why my Facebook disappeared. Ewwwww

Poppi89 · 14/08/2019 20:41

I know people who block their account when they can't go on it for a while to stop people posting on their page. Usually happens if you have people posting rude/inappropriate stuff trying to be funny or just photos of you that you don't like. I definitely wouldn't say anything as I would find it creepy that my flatmate is a bit of a stalker.

Timeandtimeagain42 · 14/08/2019 22:44

Oh come on!! Obviously op has no "right" to ask him about this but I'd be curious as hell too.... I can't be the only one surely?

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saucyspice · 15/08/2019 14:14

Thanks for all your posts! Am definitely not going to ask anything as you are totally right that it is entirely up to him. I am inquisitive and also maybe concerned slightly but he is grown adult and entitled to his privacy.

As for noticing he has mentioned to me previously that he uses nearby friends as he finds it handy to see if I am at home or not so we do both use it!

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highheelsandbobblehats · 15/08/2019 16:01

Chances are he deactivates it so that he doesn't use it. I deactivated mine about three years ago. I no longer use FB. But I will occasionally pop back on there if I know there's a specific photo I'm looking for. I'm gone again within minutes. I'd hate if anyone noticed that I was there and then gone and questioned me about it. None of their business really and part of the reason I deactivated in the first place.

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