Last October I lent a friend in need an amount of money as she was in dire straits at the time and had no money to pay her rent. At the time I didn't need the money back in a rush and so told her just to pay back what she could afford each month which she did for a few months and then stopped. ( last payment back in February).
I hate talking about money but built up the courage to text her and ask. She replied she had completely forgotten about it and would make a payment when she next got paid on 12th. Of course nothing was forthcoming so I sent another text expressing my surprise she had " forgotten" about the loan and that nothing had appeared in my bank account.
She has since replied that she hasn't been well, my asking her for money hasn't helped , that she will transfer some money ( which she has) and not to contact her again.
My flabber is gasted. She has completely turned things around as if I have a cheek asking her for my own money when I did her a massive favour. It's certainly true that you shouldn't lend money unless you can afford not to have it repaid and that's obviously the end of our friendship.