to ask What was your turning point?

[TomLee475]

in life i mean

i would say getting my current job which allowed me to move out of my parents home.

Having temporary facial paralysis and being convinced I was going to die about a week before having my second son. Completely changed my perspective on life.

Someone I worked with died in her early 30's, leaving 2 young kids behind. I've never really gotten stressed about work since, at least we are alive to complain about it

I had a serious spinal surgery, right before I was 40. I’ve had to change my life, due to the disabilities I’ve been left with. Unfortunately.

Moving to the other end of the country because I couldn't afford to live in the south-east any more. I had been living alone after fleeing from a seriously violent, abusive relationship and had briefly dated a couple of idiots since then but was basically single and spiralling into increasing debt.

I moved 250 miles and didn't know anyone at all when I moved. Within six weeks of starting my new job there I met my DP and a decade and a half later, we're still going strong and we are incredibly happy. My life completely changed and even now I still feel like I should pinch myself sometimes.

My partner died 7 years ago, when I was 31. It completely changed me and the way I lead my life.

Having my children. I feel like I was reborn along with them. They were the catalyst for me realising that looking after children was my passion, one that started in my teenage years, but got forgotten as I got older and stopped babysitting. I retrained completely and am now an Early Years and Montessori teacher. That, along with my children has made me happier than I ever thought I could be. I love my life, children and career.

My brother being admitted to hospital with meningitis, surviving but in a persistent vegetative state for the following 4 years

I can't say it made me a better person

Less tolerant of bullshit perhaps

A brain injury that has left me with neurological problems. I don't worry about things half as much as I would have before and try to just enjoy every minute of being here. Things could have been much worse and I realised that money (which I stressed about all the time) and what other people thought of me didn't really matter much as long as my LO and I are happy and here.

An older work colleague told me his trick as to how to leave work behind at the end of the day. Made so much difference to me. I think of him often

My sister teaching me that other people aren't losing sleep over me so I can leave them behind too

@abitoflight - what was your work colleague's trick?

He said I would burn out if I carried on like I was
He said that every night, as I left the car park, to imagine stage curtains closing. The show was over for the day. It was just a stage where I performed
(Always some other places that help could be sought)
Iir sounds so simple but made so much difference! Also found that my sister did something similar by imagining her work stuff parcelled up in a drawer when she left

I like it! Sounds like the kind of visual I need myself sometimes.