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Not to want the summer holidays to end?

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Holibobz · 13/08/2019 22:22

There are 3 weeks left until my two go back to school. I’d just rather they didn’t. I hate the crazy routine of term times, rushing on the school run, constant pressure to get to after school activities, plus homework to complete. Even having to see all the other parents again makes me feel grumpy. My dc love school and are doing well, I just enjoy the relaxed holiday times.

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Holibobz · 13/08/2019 23:21

I remember feeling like that too when mine were little. I’m quite a quiet person so am more relaxed when things aren’t too busy.

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Holibobz · 13/08/2019 23:22

Sorry that was a reply to bellybutton.

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SmellbowSpaceBowl · 13/08/2019 23:23

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resipsa · 13/08/2019 23:29

Your post has reminded me that DD2 starts school 3 weeks tomorrow. Must get sorted!

resipsa · 13/08/2019 23:30

PS We're away at the moment and after her behaviour over the last week or so, there will be no tears come the end of the holidays 😬

loveyoutothemoonandback86 · 13/08/2019 23:33

I'm dreading the kids going back too, I've got 4 at home and the older 3 will be back to school in 3 weeks. The time has flown by and I'd love to have them home longer.

Poetryinaction · 13/08/2019 23:39

Ah me too. Dreading September. Especially as I'm a teacher so it's back to work for me. I have 3 little ones and I am so enjoying them this Summer.

HiJenny35 · 13/08/2019 23:42

Loved having them at home together. Will be totally gutted when she goes back.

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Holibobz · 13/08/2019 23:57

Glad to hear there’s others who just like spending relaxed time with their dc in the holidays. Sometimes it feels like it’s cool to be constantly annoyed by them and to want to spend as little time as possible with them these days.

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Stripyhoglets · 14/08/2019 01:06

I think you only feel this way if you are a sahm or work term time. I just feel stressed and guilty in school hols that I have to work and juggle childcare so much!

FlyingElbows · 14/08/2019 01:14

Mine go back on Monday and I am counting the seconds!

onemorecakeplease · 14/08/2019 01:27

We have a week left and I feel like you Op. I love the summer holidays and it's been so chilled and relaxed.
Had a nice couple of breaks away and then pottered around doing day trips and swimming etc.

I would love to HE but they get such great benefits from being at school and I know we would all end up in our pjs til lunchtime every day!!

Not looking forward to getting back into the groove but I suppose the children will benefit from more of a routine and seeing their pals more.

Having said that we are in hospital tonight with ds so hopefully he will be well enough to go to school next week!

onemorecakeplease · 14/08/2019 01:28

Stripyhoglets I think that is true.

I work term time. A friend who doesn't said she felt very guilty juggling her kids around and that they didn't have a great summer

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Holibobz · 14/08/2019 09:04

Feeling lucky I don’t have to juggle childcare. It was the main reason I stopped working, as dh is very busy so I do everything for the dc. Took me a while to adjust but now enjoy being around for them and at home in the holidays.

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InDubiousBattle · 14/08/2019 09:49

My eldest is going into year 1 in September so this has been our first big summer holidays and I don't want it to end either. I love how chilled we are, the freedom of it. My youngest is starting reception and I'm just going to miss her and being at home with them so much. I am a SAHM and it makes all the difference, my friends who work, especially the ones who work ft, have found childcare really hard.

Sunshineinwinter · 14/08/2019 09:58

I dont want them to end either means back to work (teacher) Sad

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 14/08/2019 10:03

I have a 5 year old DD (going into Y1 in September) and a 9 mo DS and I'm finding it hard going to be honest. DS is now crawling, climbing and into everything so I can't take my eyes off him for a minute which makes it hard to entertain DD. DD is very well behaved but she's one of those very bright and curious kids who needs constant stimulation and gets bored easily. She thrives at school because she needs to be challenged and also really likes the structure and routine. Money is tight due to mat leave so it's difficult to come up with things to do without spending loads of money.

I'm not looking forward to the the constant washing and drying of uniforms, homework, requests for cakes/money/costumes etc at short notice and all that stuff starting up again though.

Fatted · 14/08/2019 10:04

I'm currently in the middle of two weeks off with the DC and I'm dreading going back to work and the DC going back to school. Even with an ear infection and a stinking rotten cold, I've enjoyed it. Just being able to chill out and relax, not having to keep to a strict schedule with meal times and bedtimes. I felt guilty to begin with because I felt like crap that we haven't been able to do loads this summer. But the kids have actually really enjoyed it. As have I!!

CarolDanvers · 14/08/2019 10:07

I love the school holidays. Always have. I don't think I have ever once wished they were back at school so I could some peace and they're 16 and 12 now. I love the lack of routine and just having them around. I'm a single parent too.

YouTheCat · 14/08/2019 10:11

I don't want the holidays to end either but that's because my kids are grown up and I work in a school.

MonChatEstMagnifique · 14/08/2019 10:16

I feel the same OP. Everything is so much easier in the holidays, less stress, lazy days. The kids are so relaxed and seem to appreciate not having much to do.

After the holidays my kids are going into Year 11 and Year 6 so lots of GCSE and SATs stress to come. 😓

MonChatEstMagnifique · 14/08/2019 10:17

I don't want the holidays to end either but that's because my kids are grown up and I work in a school

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clucky3 · 14/08/2019 10:44

*School holidays just make my life harder. I work full time, so holiday clubs which have shorter hours than normal school times with wraparound care, just means I'm rushing all the time, constantly late and apologetic to everyone - not just work and colleagues but my kids as well.

My two boys play together nicely. Until they don't. Then it's horrible, they're shouty, I'm stressed and don't have the money to throw at lots of lovely activities to entertain them with. All they want to do anyway is play on screens and limiting that but trying to come up with alternatives that they'll engage with and enjoy is a real struggle.

I hate not loving the holidays, but the sad fact is, life is just easier for us all during term time.*

Absolutely 100% this. On mat leave and as a SAHM for a year I loved the holidays. Working full time they just make me feel stressed and guilty. I shouldn't have clicked on this thread because reading stuff like this just makes the guilt worse.

Loudlady34 · 14/08/2019 10:56

I don't find the school routine exhausting, mainly because we live around the around the corner from the school. We get up at 7.30am, laze around eating breakfast until 8.20am, wash, clean teeth, put uniforms on and into school for 8.45. The i get the whole day to myself, im a housewife, pick up at 3.30 where I enjoy having a chat with the other mums. My kids like a structured routine also, and my daughter loves school.

I find the summer holidays very hard because I don't have any help. The kids are with me 24/7 for the whole 6 weeks. We've run out of things to do now. The weather is terrible. Money has ran out for days out. Kids have had enough of each other so lots of bickering. I am on countdown until they go back!

4yearsnosleep · 14/08/2019 11:03

Another full time worker here that feels guilty. My daughter has had a blast at sport camp and gymnastics but she's exhausted and has had very little downtime. We go on holiday next Friday and I can't wait. I have a few days off for downtime after before she starts school again but it's not enough.

I take the full school holidays off at Christmas and can't wait