To think Facebook grandparents are embarrassing?

[Spinningjennys]

I may well be BU but I’m so frustrated.
Full story- DD was born 10 months ago, DP mum was constantly posting about my pregnancy on Facebook, posting scans etc.
DP and I split up when I was 7 months gone. Didn’t hear off MIL despite me messaging, when DD was born she came round when she was 1 week old. Me and DP worked things out when DD was about 12 weeks and that’s fine, but MIL in my eyes makes absolutely no effort with DD.
She will pop round maybe once every 3 weeks for about 30 min, it all came to a head when DD was about 5 months and MIL insisted she wanted more time with her. So I proceeded to ask her on her days off if she wanted to take DD out in pram, if she wanted to come look at nurserys with us, if she wanted me to drop her off fr an hour. Nothing. There is always a reason she won’t so I don’t even understand why she caused such a scene about seeing her ?
But what really grates on me is she is constantly taking my photos off my Instagram- and posting them. With be most lovely comments about her amazing granddaughter. AIBU to be annoyed by this? I just find it all so fake and it’s really starting to upset me that my DD is missing out on a grandma for absolutely no reason

I think its one of those situations that it's summed up by 'Actions speak louder than words'. She likes the thought of being an involved grand parent, but she can't be arsed with the effort involved.

I'd just ask her not to take your Instagram pictures and repost them elsewhere and leave it at that.

My ex MIL was like this. Always posting shite. I lost my shit with her when my son was born. He was put into special care with a heart issue. I hadn't told friends etc. She posted a photo of him in the unit publicly saying "please send prayers for my grandson in intensive care". About 80 people liked it. I didn't know any of those people.

She was a dick and still is so I hear.

• Get a chalkboard
• Write “it has been X days since Granny Y has come to see me”
• Update it and use it in every photo.
• hope she doesn’t turn up daily to keep it at 0 days

@Curiousdad18
My DM also like this too. Am currently 33wjs prep with #2 and there’s no effort to visit me (let alone dc1) though we keep offering an open invitation. She just wants me to send her photos and videos every day. She only lives an hour away!

It really rankles, especially as I’m now having to think about arranging childcare for DC1 while I’m in hospital having Dc2.