AIBU to take DD2 for breakfast while DD1 is on work exp

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Funkyslippers · 13/08/2019 08:20

DD1 at work exp all week. Was arranged by me as she really wanted to do it. Thought it would be nice to have some time just with DD2 while she's there. Took her to park yesterday then to McD's for ice cream as we were starving. Need to drop DD1 off at 9am each day. WIBU to take DD2 for breakfast today after dropping her off? DD1 is sure to moan that I never do stuff like that with her like she did yesterday (not true - I often take her out for drinks/shopping etc and she's got her friends coming round for tea today, but we rarely go out for breakfast as I'm not usually dressed by then!)?

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Hangingtrousers · 13/08/2019 08:23

Definitely!
I took dd2 for breakfast yesterday after dropping dd1 at her summer club. She loved it.

Atlasta · 13/08/2019 08:29

DS goes to a regular medical appointment once every month or so. Sometimes the appointment is 9:30/10am so after dropping DD at school and travelling to town we have time for a breakfast in the local cafe. (DD doesn't know. She is 8 and would be livid)

missmouse101 · 13/08/2019 08:33

Of course yanbu. Just do it. Totally normal thing to do.

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Funkyslippers · 13/08/2019 08:43

Dd1 has already said she thinks I'm saving up all the nice things to do with Dd2 this week while she's at work exp! I haven't even mentioned going for breakfast yet

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Cosmosgrowinmygarden · 13/08/2019 08:45

Go for it OP! It’s lovely to spend time with your children individually when you get the chance.

be47 · 13/08/2019 08:51

I'd go for it, but maybe take DD1 out for brunch just the two of you at the weekend so they've both had the opportunity? I always loved one on one time with either parents growing up

Witchinaditch · 13/08/2019 08:57

Why is this even a question? It’s sad that you can’t have alone time with one child without the other complaining. If she is doing work experience I assume she is at least a teenager? Is she always so spoilt and entitled?

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Funkyslippers · 13/08/2019 09:40

Witch - yes it's sad that I felt guilty. Dd1 isn't entitled but her and Dd2 clash alot so it's probably not nice for her to imagine we're out having fun without her especially as the work experience didn't go as well as she'd hoped yesterday. I'm not going to keep it a secret though, if she finds out she'll just have to understand and accept it

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NataliaOsipova · 13/08/2019 09:43

Turn the question round. What is DD2 supposed to do when her sister isn’t there? Sit and stare at the wall? Your DD1 is doing something of her choice.....so you then need to entertain her sister.

mindutopia · 13/08/2019 09:44

One of my dc is home with me a day that the other is in childcare (usual arrangements for when the older one is at school that we can't change during school holidays). So we do all sorts of things together. Why not just make more time for you dd1 when she isn't at work experience? Surely, you can get up and get dressed to take her out for breakfast too.

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