A Mumsnet cliche but should I log it with 101?

[ThirdTimeLucky123]

So the road I live down runs adjacent to a supported living block. It’s temporary accommodation for men who are ex homeless, just got out of rehab and I assume prison. Our back gardens back on to the ally way down the side of the block and there are small kitchen and bathroom windows with frosted glass that are always open wide.

Three times in the last 24 hours I have caught the same man staring at me, and I mean a proper unblinking stare, out the bathroom window. He must have climbed up onto something to see out as they are quite high windows. The first time was for over 5 minutes and I tried to ignore it. The third time he seemed to quickly run away when I noticed him and shouted for my husband.

I then called the office of the supported living place and described what had happened. She said straight away “Oh yeah I know exactly who you mean, sorry about that” she said she’d get the day staff to talk to him in the morning, I said ok if it continues I’ll call the police, she said yes you’d be well within your rights to do that. Again

Sorry posted too soon!

Now it’s late and I’m completely freaked out. I’m in the house at lot by myself with the DC and he could have any type of history.

So should I also call 101 or wait and see what happens?

I have ordered some screening which is coming tomorrow and will be put up tomorrow evening! So that should help.

What would the police do? Caution him for looking out the window at you? Sorry, but I am not sure it's a police matter.

What a horrible invasion of privacy. The police might offer a gentle warning to him, especially if he's learning how to integrate into society.

I used to work in a home for young male adults who had learning disabilities, and one man was always being spoken to by the police for antisocial behaviours (including staring at younger girls) so if it keeps happening it's worth mentioning it to them.

Thanks theministry

I’m just thinking worse case scenario, he could be a convicted sex offender or paedophile.

I’ll suppose I could call the office back tomorrow and ask if he’s been spoken to? I don’t want to overreact but I also do want to nip it in the bud. It’s make my skin crawl!

*made not make!

I would definitely ring 101 if you are worried.
Good idea about the screening, do you have shutters/blinds/nets for the windows too?
I don't suppose the centre can tell you how long the man might be living with them?

What can he see from his bathroom window? I mean is he staring into your kitchen? lounge? bedrooms? bathroom?

If it's bedrooms or your bathroom I would call the police tonight, if its just your kitchen I'd wait til tomorrow and see if the day staff get anywhere first, its supported living so it could be he is just nosy or bored and doesn't have the social skills to know its creepy and will stop once its pointed out.

Call them!

Intimidation is a form of anti-social behaviour.

And I have been told by police recently that their budgets are being further cut because people can't be bothered to report things any more so they can't prove they're needed.

Ah sorry I didn’t say, it’s when I’m in my garden! Whenever I’ve gone out there today, he’s there have covered the back door that he could see through too. All other windows are ok I think due to angles, he’s looking down at me when I’m out there if you know what I mean?

You've got some screening coming, and presumably you can arrange your blinds and curtains to block the view of anything that he might find interesting. Also the staff there might put a stop to it over the next day or so before you need to take it further.

Ah right, well I'd still give the staff there a chance to sort him out before getting the police involved.

If you're going to be putting some screening up that should sort the problem without getting the police involved. If he intimidates you another way, then definitely.

Might wonder how the woman who works there copes!

im sorry.big difference between supported living for those in trouble from being homeless and out of rehab and those out of prison supported living places.