Please tell me that TTC for no3 is a bad idea?

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And talk to me how it changes things? (Like cars etc)

I was sure I was done after dc2 came along 2 years ago.
I know DP would really love another as he keeps mentioning it.

We would NEED to upsize straightaway which we cannot do right now unless we loose an asset which is a longterm investment for the future. I have only just started fully enjoying DC2 with their little character coming out and finally sleeping through the nights and being able to communicate to an extent. 3DCs means more school/nursery runs/juggling clubs etc which I'm already not a fan of. I know I was extremely lucky to have had fairly straightforward pregnancies and labours but still struggled with recovery with both DCs and I know this time can be worse.
I'm concerned my attention will be too divided. I quite like our little balance and DCs are great average happy under 5s and I feel extremely lucky to have what we have.

BUT I keep sitting there absentmindedly rubbing my belly wishing I was feeling little kicks. I keep thinking about it more and more and wondering if I should tell DP but I know he will grab the opportunity with both hands and jump at the chance. I look at tiny babies and my chest swells and I get all tearful wishing for another.

Somebody please talk some sense into me?!

I’m sure not the advice you are looking for but it’s a bad idea for the planet if that helps! The best way to reduce your families carbon footprint would be fewer children.

Terrible idea.
Changes everything. You are immediately a non standard family unit incurring extra costs and general awkwardness. Family tickets won’t include you. Holidays are really difficult unless you camp... even villas / cottages are more difficult. Hotels impossible when no 3 out of cot.
Tables in cafes are for 4.
3 car seats - total pain.
Not enough handle to wrangle the offspring.
Then juggling 3 lots of after school activities. 3 parents evenings 3 plays etc etc.

Yep terrible idea.

However did it anyway and wouldn’t have it any other way😂. BUT my advice would be wait a little. Not only will you be sure but the fact that eldest was 6 when youngest was born made things much easier ( and son was 3)

You need a bigger car as well as a bigger house.

Maybe a trivial one but many things are catered for a family of 4. E.g. family passes for days out are usually 2+2, food comes in packs of 2 or 4

So is it logistically much harder?
I can imagine school runs wrangling 3 would be a bit challenging ?

We have five! And yes I heartily wish we'd had common sense and stopped at 2.

There's just no need! Stop Yourself!

Three children would tip me over the edge but you sound keen and your dh is too, so I don't think it is necessarily a bad idea.

I have three DC. I love them so much, but going from 2 to 3 was so much harder than 1 to 2. And now they're teens / pre teens DH and I spend our evenings and weekends ferrying them about to after school activities. My advice is to stop at 2!

How many years do you want to be doing the school run for?
Have you the appetite for doing everything for a third time? Nativities/school plays/making models of the solar system out of paper mache?
How do you fancy three teenagers and all the associated time and money they involve?

It's not just the baby stage to deal with, I found that relatively easy. It's the terrible toddler tantrums.... Again! It delays you moving on to a different parenting stage by a good few years, by which time your eldest DC may be approaching moody pre teen years (not sure of your age gaps).
Don't get me wrong I love having 3 but I'd be lying if I didn't say I'm aware that my eldest 2 are relatively easy now they're school age and repeating all sleepless nights and stubborn tantrums is a little rough for everyone at times.