To find out the baby's gender?

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So right now I technically have the option to pay privately and find out the gender of the baby I'm pregnant with.

My DH is adamant we wait to find out until we can get together with both of our family's (due to distance), but this will not happen for almost two months from now.

My DH's reasoning is that if I find out the gender then I will tell my mum over the phone and she will blurt it out to everyone she sees (this is what she did with announcing my pregnancy). He doesn't want my family or his family finding out over the phone, he wants it to be a surprise where we all find out at the same time. I kind of understand this, but I am very impatient.

My mum and MIL agree I should find out early. I can see DH's reasoning though.

What would you do? Start a row with DH to find out now or leave it for later? Do you agree with me or DH? AIBU to find out the baby's gender?

Blimey, what a song and dance over not very much at all. I’d just wait. You’ll hopefully get a more accurate prediction if the baby’s a bit bigger and it’s down to you and your partner, not your parents!

I'd find out the sex and tell them over the phone.
It's not that big a deal that it needs to have its own party.
These ideas are taken from America. It's not that significant.

I think announcing it at a big event makes it too big a deal. I would find out and tell parents over the phone.

Even if you wait until the birth then you are not going to be able to tell everyone at once!

Why does your DH have to make it so complicated? Life is hard enough as it is

Live stream ypur announcement- they can all find out together then! We found out with dd2 because dd1 was desperate to know. I'd previously mc at 13 weeks so did not want dd1 at the scan in case something was wrong. She was adament she wanted to be the first person to know the sex of her new sibling - we bigged it up that the sonographer wouldn't tell me or dh, but would put the baby's sex in a sealed envelope. We put a little card saying 'its a girl' and filmed dd1 opening it and reacting very happily. We then sent the video to family on whatsapp. They live 10 minutes away so we could have easily got them together but it just didnt seem like a big deal. It was a bit OTT but dd1 was really struggling with the notion of becoming a sister and it helped. Didn't do a 'gender reveal' though.

Couldn't you just not tell your mum?

How far along are you OP?

Most people don't really care that much what you are having tbh, if you want to know find out and tell parents. Not finding out can be fun too though, I didn't find out with my baby

Surely if there was a way of avoiding all this stress - not finding out until the baby is born - any sensible person would do that?

Why don't you just wait until the baby's born?
I don't understand the obsession with finding out what sex a baby is prenatally

This ^

I have never been able to fathom why parents to be need to find out their babies sex/gender before it's born. Does it matter? - except for the nauseous "Gender Reveal Party" 🤔

Why do some people have such a problem with parents finding out the sex before it's born?
I've even heard "you'll be less inclined to push, because you know what it is already!" as if I'm only giving birth to see whether I made a girl or a boy

Find out together without family and keep it quiet until the birth or announce at a family gathering with everyone there