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AIBU?

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phone photos

14 replies

donotgoogledragonbutter · 12/08/2019 03:28

My partner has pictures of his ex girlfriends on his phone..some are really graphic.
This makes me really uncomfortable and pissed off. I've asked him repeatedly to delete them but he says as they are mixed in with loads of other photos he cant be bothered to to go through them all. J e claims he never looks at them which i think its absolute bullcrap. If it was the other way round he'd be going sodding mental at me as he has trust issues due to a bad relationship.
AIBU?

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snitzelvoncrumb · 12/08/2019 03:33

Not unreasonable at all. Could you offer to remove them for him?
If he won't let you do it, then I would probably not consider him someone I would want to be in a relationship with.

PositiveVibez · 12/08/2019 03:34

He doesn't sound like he has any respect for women.

He has graphic pictures of his ex. That is unfair of him. The poor woman probably doesn't know she's still being used as wank fodder by an ex boyfriend who's new partner has also seen these pictures.

He's probably showed a few of his mates too.

He is aware this upsets you but brushes off your request. What a vile little man.

isabellerossignol · 12/08/2019 03:35

His 'trust issues' and double standards will only get worse as time goes on. And before you know it you'll be avoiding seeing your friends because he makes a fuss about how he finds it hard to trust you, but 'its only because I love you so much'. Then it will be your family, then you'll be isolated.

He's not showing you any respect.

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donotgoogledragonbutter · 12/08/2019 03:45

It irritates the shit out me to be honest. I am going to remove them from his phone, enough is enough. If he says no then I can show him the door.
His behaviour is getting increasingly controlling and weird just lately..

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isabellerossignol · 12/08/2019 03:49

His behaviour is getting increasingly controlling and weird just lately..

Run. You won't regret it long term, even if it hurts now. He won't suddenly get less controlling, these things only move in one direction.

AllFourOfThem · 12/08/2019 03:53

Just end it with him. If he is controlling and weird already, things won’t be getting better.

Shoxfordian · 12/08/2019 05:13

Break up with him if he's jealous and controlling

OliveToboogie · 12/08/2019 05:39

Abusive, controlling and has no respect for you I'm afraid. He is no prize get rid of him ASAP

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donotgoogledragonbutter · 12/08/2019 15:44

His latest thing is that he cant get through to my mobile. Its old and doesn't keep signal well. He goes fucking nuts about it. This is ridiculous, how did i end up here??

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WorraLiberty · 12/08/2019 15:46

The photos are the least of your worries.

Forget them and forget him.

If you delete the photos what are you left with? A complete prick by the sound of him.

coolestmum · 12/08/2019 15:50

Delete the photos.

Like someone said the poor girl probably does not realise they are still there and that other people have seen them. And while you're there, make sure you delete any photos of you that might be on there.

Then walk away.

He sounds like a total arsewipe with no respect for you at all.

Jemima232 · 12/08/2019 15:52

This is ridiculous. How did I end up here

It doesn't really matter how you ended up here, OP.

The hills are that way.

GladAllOver · 12/08/2019 15:55

Has he taken pictures of you? With or without your knowledge or permission?

lisbonholiday · 12/08/2019 15:59

You've only said a handful of things about him and they are all massive red flags OP. Have a real think about whether he's the kind of person you want to be with.

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