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To consider running away?

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Ritascornershop · 11/08/2019 18:12

I’d tell everyone where I was going, I don’t want people worrying unduly.

But I’m really fed up. My kids are (just grown), my housing costs in this city are ridiculous, my job is okayish, my love life is confusing, my friends don’t seem super-into me. I’m bored, I’m grumpy (with life, not with other people), I’m incredibly stressed about money. If I moved a long way away I’d have money. I guess I’d be even more lonely than now, but there’s Skype and instant messaging.

Has anyone else left everyone in mid-life to make a change? I wouldn’t be able to do this for about a year (youngest kid is with me in college for one more year).

I don’t think I’d be very missed. I’m a drain on people and honestly think people would be a bit relieved not to have to think about me and my money problems. My kids would get used it (& are of an age where they’re independent in most regards).

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 11/08/2019 18:20

YANBU.

My DS is only 6 so I'm a LONG way off yet but when he's grown and out the house I plan on relocating to a new city away from everything. I'd love to do it now but I don't want to uproot DS from school and his dad (we are divorced).

ParkheadParadise · 11/08/2019 18:24

I dreamed about running away in the past.
But my problems and worries would have came with me.

ghostyslovesheets · 11/08/2019 18:26

Come here - we can drink vodka and hate everyone 😁

Ritascornershop · 11/08/2019 18:43

Ghostly, I’m not much of a drinker at all, but I’d be up for drinking coffee and glaring at all the bastards.

My personality would come with me, but honestly a lot of it is money-related. Every year I get poorer and poorer (kids age out of low-income benefits, my exh gets bored of paying support, costs go up while my income stagnates). I can’t afford to take even a weekend holiday, the house needs work I can’t do myself, my friends have all inherited money so no longer have mortgages and also earn more than I do and are all (imo) not generous so I (privately) feel a bit pissy about that (I’m talking they never so much as buy me a coffee and expect me to commiserate that they struggle with finding winter tenants for their summer homes). I love them, but I don’t feel enveloped by care when I’ve needed it.

Blah. I want to be a hermit in a house made of leaves, or a Sasquatch, or one of those goats who live half-way up the wall of a giant dam.

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