To tell you I finally did it!

[Maccapacca24]

I finally cut my sister off today! Properly! I got that brick wall and feel like a weight has lifted!

Now just to tackle my mother!

Sorry, just wanted to share! And thank you to all of you that have encouraged me along the way. I deleted my previous accounts for feat of being outed. But if you remember my post about the mother's Day meal it's me! Thank you all so much.

It sounds like you took a really big step today and it must have needed lots of courage to do so - well done for taking action.

Congrats.

The first year is the hardest, so make sure you have your boundaries well thought out, and practice your responses. It’s easy to say ‘I just won’t respond’ but the ‘flying monkeys’ will make this very tricky. Better to have one (calm) sentence ready, and repeat ad nauseum until everybody gets bored with you. People seem to love to wilfully misunderstand and discuss these things as a ‘feud’ or ‘this silliness’. Just put it back on them, where it belongs. I’ve even been known to say ‘I wish her well’ with a big smile. There’s no enmity, she’s just not part of my present or future. Like billions of other people on the planet.

I’m at the 5 year mark now (or is it more? I love that I don’t know!), and if it comes up I just raise an eyebrow and change the subject. Doesn’t even bother me. And the relief of being free from my sister’s toxic shenanigans never gets old. Never.

The hardest part? Getting over the curiosity of what’s happening in her life. Hearing tidbits accidentally. I guess it’s only human to hope someone reaps what they sow, even if it is totally none of my business!

Good luck with your mum.