AIBU - to feel lonely when it's my own fault?

[catsdogsandponies]

Hi All - first time poster hoping for some advice from objective stranger's.

I feel really lonely but have no reason to be lonely, which then makes me feel guilty for feeling lonely.

I have an active hobby which I can dedicate as much or as little time into as I have.

I work in a very social company with weekly Friday drinks, regularly big socials.

I have a lovely husband who dotes on me.

I have many friends in many different groups so I could be out socialising or visiting 7 days a week.

However..... I find myself sitting watching tv - night after night/ all day at weekends. It's disgusting really. I'm relatively young (29) but just have lost my joie de vivre if you will.

So am I being a big old brat for feeling this way?

How can I peel myself up and get out into the big wide world?

It's quite easy really. Do whatever makes you happy. If you like being quiet, indoors, watching TV, then go for it. That's fine. If you'd rather be doing something else - doing your hobby, socialising, then again that's also ok. Maybe a bit of both? Maybe you're depressed? (A mumsnet favourite).

It sounds like you may be struggling with depression, withdrawing yourself is often a symptom of this. It might be worth trying online test and then booking an appointment to see your GP.

In the meantime, you might have to try to 'fake it until you make it'. Set yourself a target to go to one or two social events a week, it may be difficult to begin with, but it will get easier with time.

Sounds like depression and I speak as a fellow sufferer. Maybe spk to your doctor.

Could even be something like low vitamin d/b or even low iron/ferritin.

I felt like this at the peak of my life when I was like 18-21, I was at uni and working in retail full time, constantly broke and tired. Was constantly cancelling on plans and staying in my flat all day on my days off as I simply had no energy - just devoted myself to work, which was very unhealthy looking back