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I think it's the universe's purpose to never stop throwing balls of shit at me.

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DeadFlea · 09/08/2019 18:52

I am feeling very low. My life has been a nightmare & it shows no signs of changing any time soon. If you have a traumatic/abusive upbringing it programs the path for your whole life - unless you do tons of psychotherapy to undo the damage & even then sometimes the damage is too much. My family was 10/10 for fucked-up disfunction & I am only just managing to cling-on to some sort of sanity. An abusive, severely neglectful & downright brutal upbringing lead me into thinking an abusive, controlling marriage was normal & my co-dependency & subservience kept me there for decades, stripped of any personal worth.

Now I'm finally free & counting the cost of all this damage. I'm not sure I have years enough left to sort out my mental problems & have a meaningful life without terror, let alone the mental ability or the money for therapy. I'm not surprised people throw in the towel sometimes.

I have to wonder, is there a point to all this pain? Have I been given this experience for a reason? I would really love to list the things that happened to me as a child so you could all read it & then reflect back to me what you think that I am still alive now. I really have no idea how to make it work.

People with any family/support at all are very blessed.

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MargotsFlounceyBlouse · 09/08/2019 18:56

I'm really sorry you were dealt such an awful hand. It's not fair. You must have had to be very strong. I don't know what the answer is but I'm glad you are finally free, so you have some space to process what's happened. It's impossible to unpack things when you're in the middle of things. I hope now you're out if it you can make progress to heal. Cake Flowers

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