Comments on photos

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This is going to sound very petty so i expect to be flamed. But here goes. DH had a friend from work I've never met. They go out occasionally for work do's and curry nights etc. All good. He tags my partner in alot of facebook memes etc. Shares stories and all that and comments on pretty much all of our photos. We dont put many photos up just holidays kids sports days maybe the occasional kid covered in his own food silly one. But not alot of online presence. Now this is were ive noticed something strange. If ever a group photo of us and 2dc. He will make personal comment of everyone but me. Now im not expecting a "ypu lool great hun" type comment of course not. But he completely does not acknowledge my existence. We webt to a wedding afew weeks ago and we all looked nice in our sunday best. Again the kids got pwrsonal shout outs with regards to hairstyles outfits etc. DH got the same and then scotch mist me...... nada. I dont know why its starting to annoy me but it is. I by no meams rely on anyone elses validation but its lile he is passively aggressively leaving me out. I sound 12 dont I? Should i just wind my neck in?

So you're upset that someone you've never met doesn't comment on your appearance ?

Terrible spelling and no paragraphs. Juggling kids tea and using a shitty old phone apologies

Work colleague probably feels weird commenting on someone they don’t know - kids are different. Or maybe you’re scruffier than your family :D (I jest)

He probably feels like he's overstepping the mark by making comments about how his mates wife looks

It would be so weird for a man to comment on his wife, disrespectful even, if he’s never met you! At best he could say “lovely looking family” or something but it’s really, really not for him to comment on his friends wife. I think you’re being unreasonable! Especially if you’ve never had an exchange with him - have you?

As ive said i dont need his validation as such. But find it weird he goes in to such detailed comments on my kids and hubby when most people just do a general "nice family pic" comment. Or "looks like a fun day out".

I would die if he saud anything directly about me. And im no oil painting

@Winterfellismyhome has got it spot on

That’s a weird thing to get het up about let alone notice.

He's right to not comment on his friend's wife. He's never met you, and imagine what whole can on worms he'd be opening if he commented and it was the 'wrong' thing to say.

OP is this upsetting you because it's pointing to a deeper issue? As in, low self esteem?

My best friend noticed it first. I dont go on facebook much. But i have noticed it myself now shes said it. Yeh maybe im jist being daft. I just know id keep a comment vague and relate to all family members

Yeh self esteem could be better. My little one isn't quite 1 year old yet. So body needs some work. But in all honestly i dont take compliments well so i certainly dont want him to say anything. But say if we put maybe 6/8 different photos of a day out or holiday we will say something of EVERY single photo.... i find it all too much

I am friends on FB with a few ladies from work, I comment on them and their kids but never their husbands/partners. It feels strange because I've never met them (yet I know everything about their kids from them telling me things). I think the kids thing is also a bit of a red herring as its not like the kids are reading the comments, its not for them.

He's clearly gay for your DH.

I would comment on a colleague I considered a friend. I might comment on their kids if we had spoken about them and that sort of relationship. I definitely wouldn't comment on their spouse who I didn't know or had never met. Especially if that spouse was of the opposite sex. Everything I say will either be seen as a put down or a come on. What a weird thing to get worked up about. Think you need to lay off the SM.