Wedding gifts

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What are people's stance on saying what you want for wedding gifts on your invites? My opinion is it's rude and I really don't like it. My OH disagrees. We are sending our invites in the next couple of months and I'm torn on what to do. Obviously it would be lovely to have gifts or money but I just find it embarrassing to almost have to ask.... AIBU?

As a guest I would rather know what the couple want. Happy to buy a gift or give cash.

YANBU

For me the invitation should contain the things your guests need to decide whether or not they can attend the wedding. Having a gift list or whatever implies that there is a ticket price.

Sorry, I meant having the gift list with the invitation implies there is a ticket price.

I'd much rather get someone something I know they actually want, so it won't be a waste of my money. I think it's really helpful to have a gift list or ask for money towards the honeymoon or whatever - it takes the stress out of gift-buying.

It means I get them something I want, so I'm fully in favour of gift lists.

As long as it's not accompanied by a poem.

This is good to know!! So what price gifts are acceptable? I just feel so cheeky!

I see gift lists as optional. If I'd rather give money or find my own gift I will do.

If you do go for a gift list I'd make sure you cover a wide price range from say £30 upwards. It's probably more likely to be seen as cheeky if you have a list full of expensive stuff with no affordable options for those who need them.

We had lived together for a few years before marrying so we didn't want gifts. But I felt awkward asking for cash. So I didn't put anything on the invites. I figured most people knew we already lived together so would figure it out. Most did and we received nearly all cash sort from the odd nice case or cooking pot. We were pleased and I didn't feel awkward asking.

We didn't put anything on invitations. A few people asked about gift list so we made one with John Lewis and gave it out only if people asked. Especially older generation sometimes don't like giving cash so was useful to have. Gifts were priced around £20-100 I think, mainly at the lower end.
Most people gave cash tho.
Good luck and enjoy your wedding!

You need to say something about gifts on the invite or people will have to ask you. Most people want you to just tell them a specific gift or cash. No one wants to spend time thinking about what gift to buy.

I haven’t seen an actual gift list for years. Most people who get married don’t need a load of new stuff because they have usually been living together for years and have everything already. It’s far more common to ask for money towards the moneymoon.

*honeymoon!

Although it should probably be renamed moneymoon