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AIBU?

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MissB83 · 09/08/2019 08:37

I am trying to get DS into his own room/bed! He is 18 months in a week or so and still BF (lots!).

We moved house a few weeks ago so that my bed is in a new configuration and it's not safe any more to bed share. In one week he has fallen out of my (high) bed three times. We were bedsharing since the 8 month sleep regression as he started getting separation anxiety and wouldn't go in a cot. He's never been a good sleeper but it was sort of manageable whilst cosleeping. However I am keen to get him into a toddler bed in his own room (I don't have a cot although the toddler bed could be changed to a cot, however I think it was the fact that the cot was a confined space which upset him in the first place, and I physically can't transfer him into a cot whilst asleep as he's huge).

This week I thought we'd give it a try. The first time he woke after 1 hour when a light went on and wouldn't go in the bed again. The second time I got him down to sleep in the bed and he woke at 10, 12, 2 and 4. The third time was last night and he woke at 12, 2, 4 and 5. Each time I have gone in and fed him back to sleep and he hasn't got upset. But I am SO tired. Am at work today like a zombie!

I honestly thought (hoped) that he wouldn't wake up so frequently once he was in a different room and couldn't smell the milk but now I'm not sure why he is waking up so much? He does still have some reflux which he didn't quite grow out of but it's fairly well under control with Gaviscon. I'm keen to avoid just leaving him to cry though as he won't fall asleep; he would just scream until he throws up which is horrid.

Any advice/words of support?! Have I done this at the wrong time? He is a couple of days away from the end of Leap 10.

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bobstersmum · 09/08/2019 08:39

Can you get him a normal single bed? Then you can get in to settle him when needed, and also Co sleep a little if needed. With a side rail on. That's what we did and its still very useful and dd over 2 now.

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 08:41

@bobstersmum I've currently stuck a single mattress in the room next to his toddler bed so I can feed to sleep comfortably so I guess I could go in with him on that temporarily? If it might help?

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bobstersmum · 09/08/2019 08:42

Also, would the gp give him omeprazole for his reflux? One of my ds has it and he improved massively, he's 5 though. As I understand it, infant gaviscon is a thickener more than an antacid.

bobstersmum · 09/08/2019 08:43

That's exactly how I started with dd, with the mattress on the floor, she was safe as couldn't fall out and it was easy for me to creep away once she was asleep! Go for it!

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 08:43

Is Omeprazole the same as Ranitidine? GP gave him Ranitidine but he hates the taste so just spits it out Sad if it's different then I'll go back and ask, because it could be that he's coughing with the reflux and waking up but I don't hear him.

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fromnowhere · 09/08/2019 08:46

Stop feeding at night. Sorry I know it's not what you want to hear, but tackle that first, he doesn't need it and will probably sleep better once you stop.
Good luck!

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 08:48

@fromnowhere no it's fine I deliberately posted because I'm genuinely not sure what I do think is best anymore and my mum says the same, to stop feeding, so if people have done this successfully it would be helpful to hear experiences.

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bobstersmum · 09/08/2019 08:53

It's different to ranitidine. It's worth a shot definitely. Do you want to stop bf op? I'm still feeding dd and she is 2 years and 3 months. The night feeds have got much less since she turned 2. I think at 2 they can understand much more so it's easier. 18 months is still very much a baby!

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 08:54

I would be happy to stop BF if my son is done with it but I'm not sure he is, I don't want to force him to stop. Sad

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TweakMyHouse · 09/08/2019 08:58

Not actually your question, but you should ask for a paediatrician appointment re- the reflux. They should grow out of it by 1yr.
If they don’t, the NICE guidelines state they should have further tests.
In our case it was a cows milk protein intolerance that was only identified at 18months.

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 09:04

@TweakMyHouse that is really frustrating because I took him to the GP about two weeks ago and was told that they didn't investigate until 2 years! Are you in the UK? I felt like 17 months was too old to be needing Gaviscon 2+ times a day, he's always had it and also had a growth problem in utero so I suspect his digestive tract hasn't developed correctly. So it sounds like it's worth asking another dr?

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MissB83 · 09/08/2019 09:09

Sorry of course you're in UK if you're referring to NICE guidelines. Argh, sleep deprivation!!!

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TweakMyHouse · 09/08/2019 09:51

Yep uk. Google infant reflux nice guidelines.
My DD they thought it could be a structural problem, did a barium swallow that showed no problems, then allergy testing (egg/milk/coeliac) then suggested trying no cows milk products.
Was off the ranitidine within 6wks and she started sleeping!
Go back and ask for a referral anyway, quote nice guidelines and stress how concerned you are that it’s a physical problem that could need surgery to correct (it might get their arses in gear!)
Good luck x

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 10:20

Thank you I think I will give that a go, nothing to lose! At least I could ask for the omeprazole as a PP has suggested as well x

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user1480880826 · 09/08/2019 10:25

Stop the night feeds and send your partner in with a soppy cup of water when he wakes up. It might take a couple of weeks (might be a few days) but he will eventually get it. You going in and feeding him will just make him cry out for you every time he wakes.

MissB83 · 09/08/2019 11:02

@user1480880826 no partner! I knew there was something I'd missed from the OP. Might get mum to come and help for a couple of nights and the sippy cup worth a try...

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user1480880826 · 09/08/2019 11:34

Sorry @MissB83, I assumed you had a partner.

But maybe worth getting your mum to help if your baby has a good relationship with them. It will probably require more than a couple of nights though.

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