Where do all the missing people go?

[Basketofkittens]

I’ve been watching some programmes recently on missing people and reading various sites on the internet. It’s interesting but also really sad.

Where do they go? I suppose some are murdered or commit suicide but everybody else? Do they start new lives or move abroad although with modern technology and IT it seems increasingly harder to do that without being traced.

There’s also a police website with details of 1000 bodies found and nobody knows who they are.

It's 7 years in this country; in our case because my dad disappeared in another country my mother had to go to the High Court to try and get him declared dead, he'd been gone 10 years when she eventually got the presumption of death cert. 10 years with no widows pension, no life assurance, unable to sell the house or access my dad's assets etc.

Norapalmer I'm sorry seems so inadequate.

Norapalmer
That is a terribly long time.
I lived in Bahrain 8years ago when an a older and immobile British lady vanished. I still wonder what happened.
I can't imagine if how it must be if it's some one close to you.

I went to school with someone whose parent had disappeared and it became very high profile at the time. There was a TV series about it relatively recently as well. The worst of it is that, even now (almost 40 years later) whenever a dead body is found in the area, my school friend is called by the media to ask if they think it could be their parent. Perhaps unsurprisingly, none of the children still live in the country where it happened - name too well known.

@BiBabbles Ignore anyone who says to make contact, having escaped a seriously dysfunctional family as a teenager (although I didn't go missing) I understand exactly how devastating it would be for them to know where you are. I still keep myself as inconspicuous as possible on social media etc to minimise the chances of any of them contacting me.

So many very sad stories on this thread.

for those of you who have a loved one who is missing, and also for those who feel your lives were so intolerable that you had to leave.

I hope that you find peace.

AppropriateAdult that was one idea but he had no known online presence.

That in itself was odd considering he was 14 and we were well into the MSN Messenger and MySpace era.

People have suggested he could have had a secret online presence, but that would be far more likely if he also had a known online presence. No one goes from zero presence straight to things like VPNs and the dark net with no normal online activity in between.

There's also a theory that he met someone at the summer camp he was on and arranged to meet up again in London. Maybe he was meeting up with them on those long walks home after school in the lead up to the disappearance.

Shit, I didn't know Marina Joyce was missing. Used to follow her on YouTube.

I have a missing relative, missing for decades. I wish I knew what happened.

Yes @Sagradafamiliar

I know some of her friends - hoping she has gone off for a bit of time for herself - very worried!

I hope the boyfriend is cooperating fully with the police as I've seen some very worrying screenshots of conversations between him and others who are imploring him to tell the truth.

I can’t imagine never knowing what happened to someone you love 😢

If you like You Tube mystery disappearance items, a fair few US ones were found, many, many years later to have changed their names & started new lives, due to abusive parents or partners. It was easier to disappear back then.

@Sagradafamiliar @poptypingchef just googled and she’s been found. Never watched her videos myself but I do remember people worrying about ‘secret messages’ in her videos and thinking she was being abused a while back. No idea if it was true or not.

My 19 year old cousin disappeared in 1984, they think he was murdered but no body has ever been found.
My aunt and uncle both died not knowing what happened to him 😢

I went missing for a while as a young teenager. The police found me and basically it was up to me what happened apart from I wasn’t allowed to stay where I was as they deemed it unsafe so I had the choice of care, another safe place or home but my parents could never be told where I was or who I was with and if I picked care or a different safe place they wouldn’t of known I was alive. I was in the local papers. I returned home briefly before moving out at 14.

That's really sad @fudgesmummy

Wow. I know this is an old thread but so interesting and sad to read.

Yeah really interesting.