to see how long my dds are happy to live in a pig sty?!?

[SavagelyGardening]

dds (11 and 9) are so messy. every single day so far of the holidays I have had to ask them to tidy it. They kind of do and it looks tidy ish but they just shove things and the next day is exactly the same. im fed up of spending my time with them constantly nagging about their mess.

so ive decided to just let them be ( for a limited time... don't think I could deal with it more than a couple of weeks) im going to see how long it takes them to actually get fed up of living in filth.

just to state, I do help them, I go in every couple of months and do a deep clean/tidy/declutter and ive tidied with them so they know what theyre doing. But I expect them to keep it reasonably tidy in between. its not a huge room so any clothes on the floor/toys/pens etc not put away make the room seem instantly messy.

no matter how badly I want to I am NOT going to clean it or ask them to clean it. Any bets on how long it takes

and if anyone has any tips on how to encourage their kids to keep their rooms tidy im all ears. ( currently say they cant go on tablets etc till its tidy )

I can identify with this thread sooooo much! And I absolutely despair of DD10’s room! Unbelievable mess. She keeps everything & I mean everything! We did the room up when we moved in & it really depresses me to see it now. I can’t clean it as there is so much stuff on the floor & on every surface. She doesn’t use her bin so there are wet wipes, tissues etc on the carpet. The only thing that’s working is to tell her that her best friend can’t come for a sleepover if she doesn’t clear at least some of the mess. We’ve done a small area each day. It doesn’t help that I suspect DD is on the spectrum & she gets overwhelmed very easily.

You'll crack first because you know the consequences of leaving food lying around for days, they either don't know or don't care.
Why not turn off the wifi until it's done or some other consequence?

OIgnoring stuff doesn't even work with adults, I have been known to leave something he should have done for days on end and it doesn't get done.

We got 2 x big bins (one for each girl)

If we came across anything out of place it was put in their bin, once it went into the bin it was their job to sort it.

They couldn't just move a (not envy) top from the bin to the laundry basket for me to wash, it was their mess and they had to wash it themselves.

It worked so well, dirty dishes actually made their way into the dishwasher!

Nagging isn't necessary if you pay down clear rules and consequences. Why would you let your home to the point of being filthy? That's not teaching them anything.

Ooh I'd never thought of having rules and consequences!

The rules are they keep their room tidy or they get no screen time, if it's a huge mess they don't go out with friends and I will confiscate things. Its still a mess