To be alarmed by my brother?

[jennymanara]

I have been stewing on this for several months. I have a niece who is very attractive. A few months ago my sister told me that she has said to my niece to make sure she is never alone with our brother. She said my niece had complained about our brother making her feel uncomfortable and my sister said she thinks our brother is a bit of a creep.

I was taken aback at this. I am not a fan of my brother but I had never ever considered that he might perve on teenage girls.
Don't really know why I am posting this, I am not looking for advice. Just not sure what to think about this.

I think telling a young woman that she doesn't need to spend time with a man who makes her feel uncomfortable, regardless of his relationship to her, is a good message to give.

I would definitely follow your sister’s gut instinct on this, as well as the fact your niece mentioned she has felt uncomfortable in your brother’s presence.

It must be shocking for both of you, given that it is your brother, but often our initial instincts are not wrong.

Have you noticed this before or only your sister?

It wouldn't be the first time a girl has to deal with a pervy uncle. Pervy uncles are, sadly, not that unusual. Protect your niece and believe what she says.

Yeah follow your sister's advice

No I have not noticed this before, but I have only boys.

I once said gut instincts were there for a reason and absolutely torn down on this board. I still maintain they are an early warning system.

In what way does he make her feel uncomfortable?

I think telling a young woman that she doesn't need to spend time with a man who makes her feel uncomfortable, regardless of his relationship to her, is a good message to give

I completely agree with this. I have an uncle who is very creepy and pervy. He’s always been the type to force a hug or kiss onto girls/women who say no or clearly don’t want to. No matter how many times me and my sister made it clear we didn’t like it and would push him away he would continue and laugh. When he first met my brothers girlfriend (early 20s) he commented on her boobs and bum.

The last time my sister was alone in a room with him he grabbed her bum but laughed it off when she asked what he was doing. We had always told our mom (his sister) that we found him creepy but she said ‘that’s just what he’s like’/‘he means no harm’/‘all the men in my family are just flirty’. After him grabbing my sisters bum we both explained we won’t be around him anymore, and I told her my DD (who I was pregnant with at the time) would never meet him. She still tries to get my sister to sit and talk with him when he visits their home (my sister refuses) and she kept trying to bring him to my home, which I refused. I will never trust her to look after my DD as she just doesn’t understand that his ‘flirty’ behaviour towards his own nieces is inappropriate and would without a doubt take my daughter to see him and see no issue with leaving her alone with him.

It’s brilliant that your niece has someone who is looking out for her.