To want to find out more about my DSiL’s new friend

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My DSiL made friends with a guy doing a certain sport they both enjoy, about 3 years ago, when the guy moved from a town at the other end of the country.

On the face of it this chap seems ok, a bit over friendly maybe but fairly quiet and keen to help out with things.

His domestic situation is odd. He is married but lives apart from his wife and three children. They stayed in the family home when he moved. He says there are no problems with his wife it’s just that she didn’t want to leave her family and he wanted to move for his work.
His wife occasionally visits, she has met my DD. My DD thought she was very nervous and anxious. The children have never visited.

The guy occasionally has a few too many to drink and indicates that he can’t go back to his home or home town and then clams up.

My DD has recently had a baby girl. She has started to wonder if this guy has something serious to hide. She wants to check if this man has any sort of conviction eg for child abuse.
Is she being unreasonable? Is there a way of checking into this man’s background.

I feel a little out of my depth with the situation.

Any thoughts?

I’m sure she could contact her local police station and ask for Clare’s law I think it is - where they will disclose any previous violent history but I’m not sure about a sex offender.

Sounds silly but you tried googling his full name? May bring up some news paper articles (or in your sisters case, hopefully not)

Either way, I wouldn’t be having a man I am suspicious of around my child. Especially if I knew nothing of his past.

Sorry - whose friend is this, your sister in law’s or your daughter’s?

Son in law’s friend. Sorry for the confusion.

I'm not sure if Clare's law will help if he's a friend rather than a partner but might be worth a try.
I agree with heartburn google him. If he's changed his name it might not work. But if you narrow down place and year a search through local papers on line might work.

Ah I see! I wasn’t following how your sister in law’s friend would have any contact with your daughter. If I wasn’t so tired my brain might have gone to the son in law option without me needing it to be explained

Can your daughter speak to her OH about her concerns? Or has she already and been dismissed?

Son in law thinks that the friend is possibly hiding something. When my DD voiced her concerns her DH was incredulous that it could be child abuse related.
The friend doesn’t seem able to keep a job for long. He has a profession but seems to mainly do unskilled work for short periods. He puts lots of time into the sport he enjoys. He doesn’t come into contact with children in this sport.

How about Sarah's Law? Could your daughter look into doing an application under the child sexual offender disclose scheme?