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Wedding with 75 guests

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Yellowbride · 07/08/2019 21:12

I’m having a freak out moment as I’m counting up the RSVPS for our wedding and have about 75 accepted but now I’m worried it won’t make for a good atmosphere even though I said from the start I didn’t want a huge wedding!

Most of the weddings I’ve been to have been much bigger so I can’t say I’ve ever experienced a small wedding like ours will be.

Also worrying about people who are coming who might now know anyone else there and how to make them comfortable and enjoy themselves. I’m starting to find it all quite stressful and wish we had maybe planned a larger party

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Shoxfordian · 07/08/2019 21:12

We had 60 and it was lovely
Don't worry

Mumof1andacat · 07/08/2019 21:14

We had around 45 for a sit down meal and with and extra 25 - 30 in the evening. People danced all night, drank and ate. It was great.

HeresMe · 07/08/2019 21:14

To me 75 seems huge.

user1493413286 · 07/08/2019 21:15

60-70 has been standard for the weddings I’ve been to. We thought carefully about table plans so that people would be sat with people they had something in common with or had met before. Also when people have been on stag and hen dos they’re already familiar/friendly.
Me and my DH have been to several weddings where we only knew the bride and groom and have normally spent the night with people met on the hen or stag do.

Greeborising · 07/08/2019 21:16

75 guests is definitely enough for a party!
Stop worrying about who’s coming and whether they have a good time!
It’s your day.
Enjoy it!!

zucchinieggplant · 07/08/2019 21:17

We had around 80 and had a brilliant party, definitely helped by a really good band and plentiful wine.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 07/08/2019 21:18

I've got 65 coming and I have not even considered that it's too small...

Alb1 · 07/08/2019 21:18

75 is not a ‘small’ wedding. People will be fine and happily mingle, I stressed about the same thing before my wedding but honestly your guests arnt expecting to be babysat, they will be fine!

Dandelion1993 · 07/08/2019 21:18

We had 30 for the ceremony and sit down meal an dkt was fab

They were people we really loved, cared and appreciated.

ohmysoul · 07/08/2019 21:19

We had 45 for the ceremony and meal then another 90 in the evening. The atmosphere was brilliant all day.

AragonsGirl · 07/08/2019 21:20

We had about 60, and it was just what we wanted. Those people important to us rather than a whole heap of people we only vaguely know

zeezee3 · 07/08/2019 21:22

75 is quite a lot.

Hope you have a good time!

MirandaWest · 07/08/2019 21:23

We had 41 in total to our wedding - was perfect Smile

DeRigueurMortis · 07/08/2019 21:25

We had 40 and it was brilliant (both DH and I have small families and we only wanted close friends).

The food and service was excellent as they weren't trying to get so many plates out at the same time (and less people meant we went high end on the food). No queues for the bar etc

Enough people to create an atmosphere and the numbers meant the guests "mingled" with each other. We didn't do a disco (DH and I don't dance Blush) but we did have music on in the evening and a string quartet.

Just make sure your venue is sized appropriately.

If you have a cavernous room then 75 people won't look like many, but in an appropriately sized room it will seem like a lot of people.

Cryalot2 · 07/08/2019 21:28

We had 60ish ,but no evening do . Lovely day. Just what went wrong since?

( ignore me,)
Have been to a big wedding recently and one about your size a few years ago. The smaller was much better.

IamChipmunk · 07/08/2019 21:28

We had 45 for the whole day/night. We did aim to have more of a party as thats what suited us. We didn't have a disco or first dance or formal seating. It was fab!

OooErMissus · 07/08/2019 21:32

We had about 75-80 - our priorities beside the venue were - an amazing band and free flowing bar.

It was an awesome party.

Merryoldgoat · 07/08/2019 21:37

I had about 80 - all for the whole thing. It was fabulous - no total strangers, most people knew each other and it was truly wonderful.

Movinghouseatlast · 07/08/2019 23:00

That's loads of people! I think big weddings are a bit shit as a guest, a bit faceless.

The best wedding I went to was 8 people!

DramaAlpaca · 07/08/2019 23:03

We had 65 & it was great. My SIL only had 30, and that was also a lovely wedding. Both were much nicer & more intimate than BIL's wedding, where there were 250 guests.

wifesupremacist · 07/08/2019 23:53

We had 36 (last week!) and it was fabulous, for me it was great knowing everyone was there because they Mattered and not because of box-ticking or obligatory invitations

NCpreggo · 08/08/2019 00:18

We had about 60 and it was great. To be honest there were quite a few of those who we didn't even get to chat to for long - you're so busy that there just isn't time. I've been to a wedding with 150 odd people and only really got to say "hello" to the bride and groom and they looked exhausting trying to get round everyone all day.

Some people with kids left mid-evening but everyone else was so sloshed by then that I don't think people noticed that some others had left!

No point in inviting people just for the sake of it. You'd probably regret that in years to come - plus the added expense!!

flyingspaghettimonster · 08/08/2019 01:42

We had 100, but only about 30 I cared much about being there. At least 30 were my mother in laws friends and extended family I hadn't even met before. 75 if people you want there sounds lovely.

user1471560524 · 08/08/2019 02:29

We had 45 guests and that didn’t seem too small - we even had a DJ!

Yousicktwistedfruit · 08/08/2019 02:59

I’m planning my wedding at the minute I’m only having 25 people there because I hate massive parties so a small wedding is perfect for me.