Paying for sex online

[Ozziewozzie]

My stbexh is adamant I am completely unreasonable and nuts. Before we finally ended our relationship, we had a fall out over his lying about his cheating from a king time ago...(although I’d only at this point recently found out) His response was to just get up and walk out. We didn’t actually discuss breaking up as he stormed off pretty sharpish.
That very night, within a couple of hours leaving here he paid 2 websites to join. The websites were specifically to meet women in the local are for sex. Not the usual dating apps. He paid and set up his account and off he went messaging the women. 7 to be exact. All messages were very sexual. No small talk at all and definitely no general profiles. All pics of women were either naked or in lingerie. He received messages back but then got frustrated as to take things further he’d have to pay more money.

AIBU in thinking this similar to paying for sex?

He’s always accusing same of being unreasonable and that should simply move on and try again with him. When I raised this stuff with him again he slammed the phone down and didn’t bother turning up to see the kids as scheduled.

I wouldn't be discussing anything with him. If he doesn't turn up for contact note down his flakiness don't get drawn in to a conversation about his sex life (or lack thereof) . You don't have to discuss it. Just separate. He doesn't get to decide how you view his actions.

Why are you even bothering with him? Let him be a dad to his kids if he can be arsed but find someone else who isn’t a complete cunt.

Clearly has no respect for you to join sites and start sexting women immediately after walking out, then offering no explanation when confronted.

He must be a bit ashamed of it but would you still be willing to try again if you knew he had met these women and had sex? Don’t be a mug

So sorry. I fell asleep! Best nights sleep I’ve had in ages. You are so right. It’s so good to hear it on here, albeit only a couple of you
The question ‘Why am I bothering with him?’ Just slapped me in the face (beneficially) I actually don’t know why I have been.
Just to say, this is just one small part too. Believe me there was a whole lot more he did. I actually feel better now and realise it really doesn’t matter.

He's a mug. None of those women are real. They are a pool of women paid to reply in the persona of whatever profile someone horny bloke has sent a message to. He wont get sex from them.

@Andysbest
I agree but the total test really thought he would. Not only that, when I raised it with him, he actually was more concerned with having been ripped off than anything else.

Tw*t