Would you be suspicious?

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I've been with my husband for 7 years now and married for 3. We have two beautiful children together and he is a lovely man, kind, generous and really gets stuck in with the children despite not being home much. (Forces).

In the second year of our relationship, I found out he had been using a 'swingers' website to video chat with other women. We dealt with it, I forgave him and we moved on. I would say it was a case of forgiven but not forgotten on my part. Anyway, one of the things he did was to delete all his social media accounts and he hasn't used any since then...until now. I was up really late doing a night feed and saw his phone lying around. Yes, I snooped. He's back on Facebook under a fake name. The weird thing is, he doesn't have any friends, hasn't made any posts, hasn't received any messages or anything. It just says he has a dormant account basically.

You don't need to berate me for snooping, I already know I'm an idiot. But would you be suspicious? Why would he have an account with absolutely zero activity?

Haha that made me laugh out loud. If he isn't straight he is incredibly good at hiding it. Nah, definitely barking up the wrong tree there. He's not posing as a woman any way, he has a fake FB profile with absolutely nothing on it that is a woman's name.

Some names are actually gender neutral like Tracy, Holly, Leslie, Chris
I have known men and women with these names.

My ex had a fake Facebook account with nothing on it...I found it was linked to a fake email, numerous dating sites inc a swingers a site and a secret amazon account. So I’d be careful considering the history

The name is Mia. As in the girl's name, but also an acronym for missing in action. Shit, I don't see another option but to ask him really. This is not going to be fun.

His FB account is his surname but with a girls first name

That's what I'd be a bit suspicious about...

Did you check the activity log? Was it completely blank?

Many people have a fake empty FB account purely to browse through marketplace or find out about local activities. Also to sign into sites that only accept FB login or the FB login is easiest.

Not sure if Tinder has changed since I last used it years ago but it would be useless using an empty account for tinder. You use the photos from your FB profile on tinder you see.

Seems odd but I suppose the only real way to know is to ask him, if he has something to hide you should know from his reaction. Hope it’s nothing though OP especially as you’ve only just recently given birth.

There's nothing but my name on my Facebook page. I use it to join groups connected with my hobby and to contact companies I order from as they respond to Facebook messages.

Congratulations on the birth of your baby. I'd ignore all the Tinder comments, I'm sure it's all perfectly innocent. The best thing you can do is speak to him. Explain that your hormones are playing up, you got a bit paranoid as every sleep deprived mum does. I'm sure he loves you and your little family and will understand why you felt the need to have a peek at his phone. Everything will be OK. Stay positive. Sending you a big hug 🤗 x

What email address is the account linked to? Is it one you know he uses?

Could it be something to do with his job? My dads in the the army and as a previous poster has said there has been issues before with some soldiers poster inappropriate things or slagging off higher ranks, maybe he’s checking up on them?

@Bazie thank you. Xx

Just remember that although the majority of people on this site are genuine and want to help other parents, there are also those who join in just to 'stir the pot'.....as you can see from some of the responses you've received. Take care 💐

How old is MIA?

Op how can you still be so naive about all this?? Especially he had already been on a swingers account before.

You have a gut feeling for a reason op
Dont ignore it...