AIBU to just QUIT?

[Annon11]

Needing to rant... Been in my job 6 months and was thrown in the deep end, alot is changing, lot’s of people leaving also....

The work load is unmanageable, impossible to do a good job and get through everything to a good standard, making mistakes as too much on . Communication is very poor, had one meeting with my manager since joining at my request , barely see them really. Often given tasks without full info, even when I ask for more, always pushed back as not what they wanted then with full info? It’s all very odd.

I find everyone is very patronising, if I ask a question it’s almost like i’m stupid and I should know and now I’m afraid to ask.

I have a really poor relationship with my colleague next to me who huffs and rolls eyes when I ask anything.

Manager on work night basicly said to colleague I will never be as good as previous employee I took over ...

It’s making me feel ill, I dread going there , lost all motivation and it’s ruining my confidence. AIBU to just quit?? We survive on DP wage and save all of mine so it would just be savings taking a stand still . I have an interview next week. Just don’t think I can stick it out any longer but feel selfish on DP as he works so hard.

It's great you have an interview elsewhere. If you can manage it at all, I would hang on until you have a new job to go to. Easier than having a gap on your CV.

I'd just leave. You don't need the money for bills and it's not worth being unhappy over. I wouldn't worry about a gap in a CV either.
Plenty of people have gaps and it doesn't stop them gaining other employment

Sounds like a really toxic workplace

Sorry your are feeling like this, I would wait for the result of your interview, then I would leave- even if it’s a no. Just because there is a gap on your CV (doesn’t most people?) it’s really not wroth having bad MH over.

Yes we are quite lucky at the moment that DP wages cover all bills and life really .

Part of me thinks oh am I overthinking but I’ve been in tears on most lunch breaks down the road in my car . I hate it !

Leave and sign up with an agency while you look for a new job. That looks much better on your CV than being unemployed.

I am praying for my interview to go well next week, I haven’t worked in that industry before which could be my only downfall so will revise all weekend! Phone interview flowed well though. The company has 4.9 rating out of 5 and sounds a great place to work. Exactly what I need!

Yes,quit.
Your health is being affected and it really is not worth it.
Record all the issues you have had and present them to HR with your notice.
Good luck with the job interview,if they ask about your current job then be honest.
No in is worth this much angst.

Job not in.

Your mental health is important, and in your circumstances I would say quit.

I think people get far too worked up about the idea of a small gap on a CV. That kind of thinking actually contributed to me staying in a similarly toxic job far longer than I should have. Better a small gap now than a nervous breakdown in a few months time.

Luckily they already asked re job, I said the role was going down a different route and I believed I was capable of more @karmastar which is true. Worse thing is , I’m in HR!

Life is too short, the job's not going to get better. Put all your energy into looking for a new role.

This sounds exactly like somewhere I used to work.
Quit, I stayed for 4 years it really has affected my mh long term and my health.
Quit now, don't stay. You won't regret it. Your health is worth so much more. Wish I had in retrospect.

@lilana sorry you had to put up with this crap also but glad you got out! Crazy how toxic workplace can make such a huge impact to your life and mind I never realised before

They really do affect so many aspects. Please leave before it starts to affect your self esteem, or cause long term anxiety. You deserve better.

Yes, quit. If the roof above you is not dependent on you being in that awful job, then walk.
You need to be out of there before you can make a rational decision about your next job. You don’t want to jump at the next opportunity just because you’re so desperate to be released from this awful place. It needs to be the right opportunity, not just an escape plan!

Yes you are all so tight. I definitely don’t want to jump into anything to get out. I have also redone my CV again ! Fingers crossed!

I would have pulled up the colleague sitting next to me the first time eyes were rolled and told them how unprofessional it was, even on my first day!

So right not tight lol!

No job is worth crying in your car over, even without the security cushion you have with your DH being able to cover expenses, sometimes you just have to do what’s right for your peace of mind and walk away. I’ve done it twice in my life and, while temporarily it made things tight financially, I’ve never regretted it apart from staying in one of those jobs too long out of a misplaced sense of responsibility. I’d hand in my notice regardless of the outcome of the interview. A gap on your cv can be explained by you were looking for the right opportunity and a good fit for your skillset.

Hi all! Gone back to my usual username so hope this let’s me change by typing Annon11 in the box lol!

For anyone that might care...Had my interview and it went so well! They are doing references and emailed to say they will call tomorrow , sounds a great place to work and exactly what I want from a team aspect! Fingers crossed light at the end of the tunnel!

That is great news - wishing you all the best for the future