To stop contact

[AllStar14]

Half aibu and half wwyd. This is about my ex (father to my dt2), who can be summed up as a work shy, selfish piece of shit, and I've reached my limit with him. He started a new job on Monday after being out of work for about 2 months. Todsy is Wednesday and he no longer has a job, this is typical but by far the quickest he has lost a job. I've received no maintenance for a while and I'm getting pissed off with having to supply the twins food/nappies etc etc for the time he has them (one day a week, not overnight). Because he is always out of work and can't afford to feed them apparently. So, wibu to say I'm not supplying it anymore and if he can't afford to feed etc then that's on him and they can stay at home with me?

I guess I'm hoping that would force him to sort his life out, get a job, arrange mediation/court etc but the reality is that I think he won't bother to do any of that. He will just be the victim who tells people I don't let him see his kids blah blah.

Sorry if it's a bit of over the place, rushing while on lunch break.

Sorry op but I would keep providing the stuff he needs. Unless you think the kids are in danger in his care then it's wrong to stop contact.

Yeah I know, they aren't in danger. I feel like I wouldn't be stopping the contact (although I know that's what my title says) but just to stop providing the stuff because he will never bother to buy things as long as I continue.

It is the only time I get a break so I don't want the contact to stop, in fact ideally he'd have them more often! I just feel it's all so unfair.

It's definitely a tough one OP, of course he deserves to see his kids. You also deserve the break to recharge your batteries etc but he should be paying. I would be annoyed if it was me, don't threaten to stop him seeing them just word it as you can't afford to pay for everything anymore a d he needs to start contributing as it's getting too hard for you

The thing is, if they need X meals an X nappies, whether they are with you ro with him, they will still need those things.

Do you work? Could he provide the child care if he's always out of work?

Sorry he may a useless cockwomble but you can't stop contact for this

I do work, he is extremely unreliable so I pay for childcare. Thank you for your replies, he knows I struggle but doesn't make any difference to him. I won't stop contact, I couldn't actually go through with that. I'm just fed up that's all.