Am I doing the right thing ?

[Gargamel1975]

Dd (15) has been seeing a boy also 15 for the last 2 years. She just asked me if he could at home - I’ll meet him for the 1st time. I said yes but the door room needs to be opened at all time. She is a very mature girl and does very well at school. We had the chat about protection and knows she can approach me whenever she wants.

Part of me think she is too young to have a boyfriend but I can’t really stop her and if they are under my roof it makes me feel as if I have it under control a bit ! What do you think ? Thank you

She isn't too young to have a boyfriend, as such. She will soon be legally able to have a sexual relationship.

I think it's important not to dismiss the relationship whilst not treating it as you would an Adult relationship.

Kids these days seem to think that them meeting up, is the equivalent of a marriage. The Celebraties and soaps they follow don't help.

Just watch out for her not retaining independence and be available to talk. Really encourage her to keep friendships going.

If she’s had the boyfriend for 2 years, why are you only worrying now she’s too young?

How come she's had a boyfriend for two years but you haven't met him already?

I don't think 15 is too young for a boyfriend (unless they're planning marriage and children ). 13 was young but we're two years past that.

I'm not sure what you're asking tbh. If he could what at home? Have sex? With the door open?? I'm so confused

My son had a girlfriend when he was 14. He brought her home very early on. She was a lovely girl with good manners. I can't see the situation you're describing as a problem.

I'm a bit surprised you haven't met your daughter's boyfriend before, but some kids are more private/self conscious than others. As long as you've had the birth control and not letting yourself be pressured into sex chats then I wouldn't worry.

The bedroom door open or shut doesn't really make any difference. If they want to shag they will find a way. For me it's more important to talk to my kids about sex and why it shouldn't be rushed, but to also tell them where the condoms are just incase.

I think it was 2 years and it was just at school and it’s only now she wants us to meet him, he was always welcome !

If they have been dating for two years they may have had sex already. A lot of friends including men were sexually active at 14/15. But your conditions sound fine and can adapt as she gets older.

I'm knocking on a bit but friends of mine from school days were sexually active from 13 or so; the park had sheltered bits etc.
So the may already have DTD.
Keep lines of communication open with your DD, welcome him in, and see how it pans out.