AIBU to turn down birthday party?

[Russell19]

My friend is 30 in a few months and a few weeks ago another friend started to arrange a weekend away on her behalf (she knows). It is 2 nights in a big city, £300 just for accommodation.

I have just had a baby so a weekend away is far from my mind and replied on a group chat straight away saying I cannot commit to 2 nights away as I'm breastfeeding and have no idea what my baby will be like in a few months in terms of feeding and hasn't been left with anyone yet. I said I could visit for the whole of one day and have an evening meal with them that other friend has planned.

Other people invited have said similar or some have said they can stay 1 night but not 2 which surely reflects these plans do not suit the majority.

My friend is not happy with me and I have recieved an angry phone call asking why I'm not going.

AIBU? Starting to think this makes me a bad friend.

I’m always shocked how selfish some people can be, spending other people’s time and money for them. When I was early twenties I probably wouldn’t have thought twice about spending £300 for a weekend away for a friend’s birthday but now I’m older with children I want to spend that kind of money on my family, a meal out and a couple of drinks will do for a friends birthday.

@MyHeartIsInCornwall I like that! She's definitely shown her arse!

Oh and a PP asked me if I did something like that for my birthday...no I didn't. This year I was working late and my husband took me away for the weekend. I would never dream of going away for the weekend unless I offered to pay for everyone, which I wouldn't do! I'm a home bird anyway.

What sort of pampered princess imagines people are happy to spend £300 to celebrate her birthday (if she’s over 10 nobody cares that it’s her bloody birthday anyway) and then footstamps like a spoilt brat when people decline?
I’d see someone in a completely different light after that shit, tbh.

omg

she has two children and she's whingeing at you because you're not prioritising her birthday over your own baby?!

Bye, Felicia.

Eugh what an entitled madam she is.

It’s wrong to expect people to fork out such costs and give so much of their time- to in addition be dismissive of a breastfeeding mother which essentially a newborn...she can do one!

So basically you are all paying for her weekend and she's thrown a strop. That'll be a firm no then.

She's a princess!!!!