To give up on sleep altogether?

[Secretlifeofme]

28 weeks pregnant and for about 4 weeks now I've been finding it impossible to sleep. What with the pregnancy pillow, which I find really uncomfortable, my acid reflux, the baby kicking me and just general inability to get comfy, I'm.averaging about 5 hours broken sleep a night at the moment. AIBU just to give up going to bed? It's so depressing lying for hours next to a peacefully sleeping DH!

Sympathies!

And I don't agree that it's preparation for what's coming. Broken unfomfortable pregnancy sleep is very differnt to sleeping around a newborn's schedule. I found the late pregnancy sleep much harder to deal with! Even though I wasn't having much sleep with a newborn, I was out cold every time my head hit the pollow, so the sleep itself was better quality.

Even if you're not sleeping, try to rest. I found watching very easygoing TV or reading a very easygoing book helped, and often would drift off. Meditation too if you have an appetite for it. There's a difference between lying upset and frustrated, vs resting as calm as you can (despite the heartburn, reflux, aches, husband etc etc)

I slept terribly in the last trimester and felt homicidal at the people telling me to appreciate what little I was getting as it would be worse with a baby.

BOLLOCKS. BIT FAT BOLLOCKS.

I have a 5 month old and have slept better since she arrived than I did for my whole pregnancy. While it’s not all cosy cuddles and rapture there is a point to being tired with a newborn which is completely different to the shit show of heartburn, being booted from the inside, breathlessness and back ache.

Forget the pregnancy pillow, until reading this thread I had never heard of such a thing . Insomnia is rubbish whatever the cause. Try to do some sort of self hypnosis and failing that get up for half an hour rather than lying awake fretting.

There’s nothing actually wrong with people buying and using pregnancy pillows - they come in many shapes and sizes and many people find them very useful. But obviously no point continuing with the one you have if it is increasing rather than decreasing your comfort. I put a normal pillow between my knees and another behind my back, and used a v-shaped pillow (the one I then used as a breastfeeding pillow) under my head. This was the combination that worked for me! I had mild SPD. I still use the v shaped pillow actually as it is the most supportive of my neck that I have ever had

Agree get a bigger bed now! Useful when you have a teething baby or toddler who keeps screaming and will only sleep next to you!