to be annoyed that friend has retracted discount?

[GraceVanPelt]

A friend of mine works at a company that sells something I want to buy, I ask if she has any discount codes I could use. She says to send her a list of things I want, she will place an order with her own bigger discount, and I can transfer her the money - leave it with her and she'll sort it.

It all goes quiet which is fine, I know my order is not her priority, and I'm sure she'll get it sorted at some point soon, there's no rush. Then one month later I get a message saying "Hi Grace, I'd order your things now if I were you, there's some good deals on at the moment. I've handed in my notice so can't get any discount any more."

AIBU to feel a bit annoyed by this?

Yes YABU. You can pay full price for them like every single other customer.

I think it would be reasonable to feel annoyed for maybe...7 minutes? 8 at the most. Life is short.

If you transferred her the money then YANBU. If you did'nt you will just have to face up to the fact that you have a flaky friend and let it go.

Yes, I'd be miffed - she promised you staff discount, you could have ordered and received the goods by now. But it isnt something I'd lose sleep over

YABU!!!
Moving jobs can be all consuming. She has better things to worry about. So should you.

Well, it sounds like she has more going on than your shopping discount. Just order your stuff properly.

YABU. Maybe she was fired because she was letting friends sponge off her and use her staff discount against company policy!

You are no worse off than you were in the first place, she owes you nothing.

I'm aware changing jobs can be stressful, I know she's probably got a lot going on, and I really don't mind paying full whack, I'm just marginally annoyed that I've waited a month for nothing because she didn't tell me. If I'd known, I would've ordered it myself when I first asked.

Yeah, yabu - you haven't lost anything from this. It's not like she induced you to spend money on the promise of a discount and is now forcing you to pay full price.

I know a girl who works for Charlotte Tilbury and will sometimes put in orders for other people, but she can't do it too often or it looks suspicious. I expect that was the case with your friend, then she quit.

YABU. Using staff discount for a friend is prohibited by every employer I know in their employment contracts and is ethically a gray area. It’s like being annoyed at a friend who promised they score you some weed but then flaked out. You can’t be annoyed at a friend who ends up not doing something for you which is either against their employment contract or illegal. It’s just life that people will offer, but then get uncomfortable about actually going through with something that is ethically or legally questionable /in a gray area.

It’s not prohibited by every employer at all but some will have a cap on how much you can spend each week so you don’t take the piss.

YABU although I do understand why you are peeved. She obviously has had a lot going on in life.

Yanbu to be annoyed. However if you say something to her then you are. I think I'd feel annoyed too, but as long as you're not acting on those feelings, you're fine, imo.