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To think friend might be making excuses?

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ResilienceIs · 05/08/2019 22:27

Arranged to book a last minute holiday with a friend. We planned to book flights one weekend morning but I think they may have had cold feet shortly after - I wasn’t immediately available and got a message back saying that we could “always do another time” despite me saying I was still keen. They then messaged sporadically throughout the weekend saying they were available but then my messages were left unread when I went online shortly after (they said they were at brunch and then meeting another friend). I eventually asked politely if they could tell me whether they still wanted to go as I still wanted the days off - they responded saying the reasons for their delay was that they had spent the previous day in hospital with an ill family friend and that their plans has changed in light of all this. We are close but three were very vague with details, obviously I’m hugely sympathetic but I can’t shake the feeling that it’s an excuse (given that days earlier prior to visiting the ill friend they had already wanted to do another time and immediately became unavailable). Am I being incredibly unreasonable assuming this, obviously I have been outwardly very supportive but I feel slightly taken for a ride and really hate being lied to? I would much rather just be told that they were no longer keen or similar

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Finfintytint · 05/08/2019 22:32

She doesn't want to go and is trying to be polite and evasive rather than being upfront and honest. If she's not normally like this, just let it go and be an understanding friend.

dollydaydream114 · 05/08/2019 22:35

She's clearly changed her mind, but she's entitled to do that. There could be all sorts of valid reasons why she might not want to (or be able to) go any more, and I think you're being a bit unfair to describe this as you being 'taken for a ride'. She's trying to be polite and say no without offending you. Just let it go.

ResilienceIs · 05/08/2019 22:35

That seems to be the case!

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