Should I have said something?

[darkriver19886]

It's my best friends birthday today. I met up with him to wish him a happy birthday and he was going to meet another friend as well. When she finally turned up an hour later she turned to me and said.

"I have been meaning to catch up with you but, not today. I want to see friend alone. Can you go away?"

I was astonished and kind of looked between the two of them. The friend didn't say anything and I felt really on the spot. So she said it again and to be honest I felt frustrated and annoyed.

I just felt like she was being a baby so I muttered something about needing to catch the bus and left before I said something rude.

I am too soft and despise confrontation but felt like I should have said something. I also feel like my best friend of 12 years should have said something as well.

He's a good man really but doesn't deal well with arguments either.

Should I have said something?

It does sound like your friend was as shocked as you by this girls behaviour and was as stumped as you were so I would give him the benefit of the doubt. He has apologised also so I reckon he was just caught off guard.

Not sure why the best friend is getting such a hard time when op didn't stand up for herself either

He probably felt as on the spot and frustrated as you

Being shocked might have stopped him saying something for a moment, but presumably he spent the rest of the afternoon with her?

Would you have hung out with someone who had been that unpleasant to him and enjoyed it?

@stompythedinosaur he didn't spend the rest of the afternoon with her. She had appointment at 2. This was about half one. Seriously, it's not like him to stick up for me.

He stopped talking to his niece after she posted abusive horrific things on my Facebook wall. He once drove 180 miles to get me out of a situation.

I believe him when he says he is sorry.

She got rid of you for the sake of 1/2 an hour? Did I read that right?

Thinking about possible scenarios. It seems to me either:

• She REALLY fucking hates you (sorry, not saying that to be nasty, but she got rid of you for the sake of 30 minutes????) OR
• She's got something HUGE or horrendous going on that she wanted to talk to him about and didn't want to share with you (not great for his birthday, but if she's suddenly pregnant or someone she's close to is diagnosed with something horrendous, or she's about to lose her job or something else massive, it's maybe understandable) OR She fancies him OR They've got it on. OR She's Anya from Buffy

How well do you know this person and how well do you get on with her ordinarily? How often do you see each other.

And regardless of the reason, a horrible thing to have happened to you, so

I'm not really getting the outrage here, maybe i am not understanding what happened, i read this as

You were meeting your friend
He was also meeting another friend (were you all meant to be doing something together?)
Other friend turned up an hour late and said she wanted to catch up with you but not today, she wants to speak to Birthday friend alone?
Other friend then told/asked you to go away.

Is that right?

If so it seems other friend was blunt in what she said, it could have been worded better, however she may have had something happen that she wanted to discuss with bday friend (maybe the reason for her latecoming).

Us she usually so blunt/rude? Could something have happened that she is stressing about and wanted to speak with bday friend about and thought you had spent some time with him so could you leave them to have a private conversation?

She might just be a rude person and didn't want you hanging about but that is not my first thought.

Bday friend might not tell you what she wanted (if anything) as you say he is a great guy and has been there for you, maybe he is doing the same for her and not disclosing what she said.

There really is no reason or justification for turning to someone and saying 'can you go away?'. That is primary school 'you can't play with us' shit. Bloody horrible.

Wow how rude! She's a grade a bitch and the only reason she talks to you like this is because you let her. Please learn to stand up for yourself OP. Just imagine all that lovely satisfaction you will feel when you see the shock on the faces of bullying twats like her when you do.

HIS friend asked you to leave. His niece wrote abuse on your wall. Why do you think these two women dislike you so much? Do other women not like you?

Why is this man surrounded by women who behave so aggressively towards you?

Maybe she fancies him??? Holy cow she is rude.

Why did his niece write horrific things on your Facebook? Are you part of the Mitchell family

Nobody has the right to tell anyone to go away from a social situation unless someone is behaving badly.

I'm astonished at posters who can't see the problem.

Op, I would have said, " I couldn't care less what you want. I'm here to celebrate my friend's birthday."

Op, i don't get how you would catch up with rude bitch anyway if you don't have her number?