Working from home

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I have posted before working from home - we are lucky at work that we are allowed one day a week to work from home, however it is subject to business requirements so if it is a busy week we need to go in.

In my role I generally have to plan my days at home 3 - 6 months in advance otherwise my diary becomes full very quickly. And have to be flexible if I do need to move them.

Dh is off this week (shift work) and unfortunately I have had to move my day working from home and not likely to get one this week. The next one I have Dh is working a 12 hour shift.

We have just had a massive row about I am not utilising my days working from home to see him as much as I should and that it's ridiculous that I have to cancel a planned day working from home for something that has come up.

I tried to point out that working from home days are for just that - work and it makes me difference to me if he is home or not as either way I will be working all day!

YANBU. My husband knows my 'office' is a no-go area if I am WFH. He'll knock if he needs to ask me something urgent, but otherwise we don't talk during office hours.

Thank you, glad it's not just me!

I organise my wfh so it works best for the dogs, stuff DH! It's for working as you say, and convenient company and lunch time strolls with the doglegs

I work from home. My interactions with my other half are pretty much limited to "I'm making a cuppa, do you want one?". It's called working from home, the clue is in the name.

Ugh he needs to get a grip. DH and I both work from home on occasion. If we are there together we work in separate rooms and meet for lunch. If he's there and it's one of my non-working days and I'm with the children, they know to pretend that Daddy isn't there.
Working from home is just that, working, it's not a day off.

What's your aibu?

Yanbu, my DH works from home and if I have a day off that coincides with him wfh I'd never dream of disturbing him apart from to offer lunch/cup of tea.
Because as you said, he's working not dicking about.

I have issues with my DP with this situation too.
He expects me to lounge around in bed with him for a couple of hours - I like to start about 6:30am as that gives me over an hour lie in compared to normal working days. I just want to get on with my day, not have him buggering about making breakfast and munching biscuits next to me.
If it was the other way around, he'd certainly not want me messing with his work pattern.

YANBU. My mother used to be forever telling me ‘I’ll give you a ring on your day off’. I really had to drum it in that I wasn’t ‘off’.

Working from home is a rare luxury for me that has to be stolen by pretending to be sick (sometimes it's the only way I can get a piece of work done without interruption), but on those days I protect my work environment like an arsey tiger. Woe betide anyone who attempts to interrupt me if I'm working at home!

Ask him if he would swan into.uour place of work and demand you spend time with him?
Work.is work wherever it is.
Time he grew up it's not difficult to understand.

I work from home regularly (at least 1-2 days a week) and we actively plan our weeks (dh also sometimes wfh or is doing childcare) to avoid ever both being home at the same time.

When we’re both working from home we use our separate offices and just meet up for coffee and a lunchtime dog walk. It does make a difference if we’re both there but doesn’t mean we don’t work.