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asking an old very drunk couple to stop being rude when slagging off my kids under their breath when on the bus

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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 13:01

i was on the bus the other day and dd1 aged 4 and ds aged 2 were chatting and laughing (it was actually very sweet) dd2 was sleeping . and old couple were also on the bus and stunk of booze as they always do when i have seen them on the bus ( they started muttering to eachother about F&&^&% kids this and f&&* kids that and kids shouldnt be aloud on buses - and how its my responsibility to keep them silent on the bus - i piped up and told them that i thought they were being rude and that it takes more patience and less alcohol than they had in their systems to look after children. his response was that i had no control over my children [shock ] they were talking about hot air balloons and it couldnt have been loud otherwise how would i have heard the old couple being rude - i asked the man if he had ever had children his reply was yes - and i said well you must have been drunk then too to think that toddlers a mis - behaving because they are laughing.... i he said well maybe i was but at least i had control over me kids -

i couldnt believe it - was i wrong??
i apologised to the passengers and driver when i got off the bus the driver responded with a grin and said dont be lol

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americantrish · 02/08/2007 13:03

i cant believe the bus driver didnt stop and ask them to get off!!!

i dont think youre being unreasonable....just remember those people were drunk and THEY had NO control....

HuwEdwards · 02/08/2007 13:04

well I think you gave as good as you got - and with more dignity

PhoenixSongbird · 02/08/2007 13:08

Children? Talking on a bus? What kind of rabble are you raising lil? You should be ashamed!!

I'm always amazed at how rude old people can be, let alone pissed people

I'm afraid I probably would have laughed at them saying that I teach my children to disrespect old people as well!

I hope your children weren't upset by it. They won't understand that they were pissed and being unreasonable.

OrmIrian · 02/08/2007 13:10

I wonder what he thinks of as having 'control' over his children. Worrying isn't it?

NotQuiteCockney · 02/08/2007 13:14

I probably would have shared my opinion about him not being in control of his mouth, and his language, tbh.

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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 13:19

dd1 just came in house and told dh that there was a nasty old man on the bus and mummy told him off cause he said bad words. she said he shouldnt say that his mummy should put him on the stairs lol...

and your right does make you shudder what he meant by keeping his in control - think they were probably raised by the local pub mob - my parents were like that my mum cant even remember giving birth to me let alone raising me - silly old drunks the lot of them

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Kewcumber · 02/08/2007 13:23

I think its good for your kids to see you sticking up for them when they're really not doing anything wrong. Of course if they are doing something wrong...

Impossible to discuss anything sensibly with pissed people though.

GroaningGameGirly · 02/08/2007 13:26

I can't wait until I'm really old so that I can get pissed and travel around on buses abusing people!

As Kew says, there's not reasoning with a piss-head, though.

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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 13:32

lol makes you wana get one of theose face masks made and a wig and spend a day as an old person to see why they think they are soooo superior

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Kewcumber · 02/08/2007 13:33

to be fiar most of the older people round our way are lovely to DS - many make an effort to come over and talk to him.

Kewcumber · 02/08/2007 13:34

in fact now I come to think of it - I think they've all been lovely to him. One man saves his free biscuit in M&S cafe for him if he sees us!

JeremyVile · 02/08/2007 13:35

How rude! Glad you said something.

I got the bus a few weeks ago with DS asleep in his pram, an old couple were sat together and i ahd to ask them to pull their shopping trolley in a bit as it was blocking the aisle and i couldn't get through.
I was perfectly polite, apologetic even, and said thank you even though she she sighed and made it seem like a big performance.
Then they were were tutting and muttering to each other and the woman said (deliberately loud)
"of course, in our day we didn't bother about buses when we had babies, you make your bed you have to lie in it, we walked everywhere"

So i said "yes, its great how things have improved isnt it"?

They carried on muttering of course, but at least had the good grace to do it quietly and i felt much better than if i hadn't said anything.

OrmIrian · 02/08/2007 13:36

We don't have any nasty old people either kew. Most of them are lovely and make a fuss of my children. Mind you I can't remember the last time I was on a bus.

Kewcumber · 02/08/2007 13:37

no me neither (buses that is)

duchesse · 02/08/2007 13:45

Miserable gits. Probably spend their days in an alcoholic stupor to avoid all the perceived threats in the world. Gotta feel sorry for them really.

mangojuice · 02/08/2007 14:01

pmsl jeremyvile

madmumof5 · 02/08/2007 14:06

i would have gave them wat for it is out of order....there was a article in the nottingham evening post not so long ago and there was a 2 year old crying (he had been to hospital) and the bus driver told the mum and son to get off as they dont allow cryin on the bus what is this world coming too you cant win they play and laugh nicely this is not allowed and if they cry this too isnt allowed it should be drunks etc that are barred

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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 14:07

bloody right too mad mum

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theUrbanDryad · 02/08/2007 17:41

at least the bus driver was on your side though lillaura, round here, they probably would've sided with the pissheads.

good response, JV, i can never come up with anything quick enough!

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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 20:12

i know i had visions of everyone including the driver thinking i was making a fuss about nothing but my adrenaline was rushing so i think i would have fought with anyone that had stood in my path lol - even my friends who have seen me loose my temper have said i might be tiny but im scary when im made i might only be 4ft 10 but the last time dh stood in the way of my strops i smashed his plasma screen tv screen - he is 6ft 4 and couldnt get me to back down - think he will leave me to it next time lol

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Rachmumoftwo · 02/08/2007 20:22

Had similar when eating out with my 2 and some friends. They were being really good, it was mid-afternoon and we were in a family pub. An old drunk man took umbrage at their giggling and came over and said we should be controlling our noisy children. They can be a bit loud but this was so not one of those times! So I made a point of praising their good behaviour and how proud I was of them, right in front of him. Always good to stick up for your kids, well done!

veryverytiredmum · 02/08/2007 20:34

if it had been a couple of teenagers they would have been thrown off the bus. Good on you. Personally I would have asked the driver to throw them off [wink

wannaBe · 02/08/2007 20:46

I would have made my feelings well and truely known...

Not the same I know but.. when I lived in Cardiff I was travelling home on a buss one night, and some old fart got on - he'd clearly spent the afternoon drinking in the legion as a lot of them did. Anyway the instant he got on the buss he started complaining about my guide dog, saying how it was "out of order" that these dogs should be allowed on busses and how he knew all about the world and how this dog shouldn't be there and how "people like that shouldn't be out anyway" etc etc etc. Anyway on and on he ranted with various passengers, and the driver, telling him to shut up but he didn't. So then he reached his stop and on his way down the buss he stopped by my seat, bent down and started stroking the dog, and then started saying "but it's a beautiful animal isn't it? beautiful animallll (slur slur, sway sway sway)." at which point I lost it and said, "you know, for the past 10 minutes you have sat in that seat, and slagged me off, and slagged off the dog, and winged and wined about god knows what, and now you have the bloody nerve to think you can stop and stroke her? Well you can't. so why don't you just piss off and go and sobour up.". And without a word, he left.

I don't think I have ever spoken to anyone like that before or since, but I was soooo .

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lillaura123 · 02/08/2007 21:23

no wannabe its exactly the same

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