To be irritated

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when out for a walk and it starts gently raining, MIL bleats that she wants to turn back because she's "worried about the children."

Like most mums do when it starts to rain, I whip out the plastic cover for the buggy and the children are safe, warm and dry and want to tell her to stop being so pathetic and phony.

I know why it's got my goat so much. Because it's just the one of the many times she's inferred that she's the only one who is worried about the children and that DH and I are not particularly capable of taking good care of them.

will the kids rust if they get wet

No YANBU. My MIL is just like this.Pointedly shadows my DDs when I let them run loose on the beach/playground, as if to imply that I am being neglectful. I let DD1 go to the loo by herself recently when we were all in a restaurant and she kept trying to 'helpfully' go with her - she is 10 ffs!

my mum think my kids are dry clean only too.

mums and mil's alike always think they did (and do) a better job than us. i cant wait for the grandchildren

YANBU. I was out with a friend and DS when it started to rain, so I put the raincover over his pushchair. Friend said "Can he still breathe under there?" I thought, no he can't breathe, but what the hell..

It's classic MIL behaviour!

Can come up with many similar examples myself.

On phone to MIL, one of your children makes any kind of noise in the background (could be laughter or whatever), MIL always says in worried tone "Is she alright?", as if we are probably neglecting her grandchildren or torturing them or something.

grrr

actually my DH is like this!

My mil is like this too.

Dh gave ds a baby fork to play with whilst in his highchair. (8-9-10 months??)
Mil sees and takes it away saying 'that's dangerous!!!' Goes into the kitchen and says to sil's how 'stupid' dh was by giving him this to play with.

Mighty mil there, ready to save dgc from is evil daddy...

oo ooo yes, and the bath time one.

I ran bath for ds
Mil in room tests water and says it's too hot.
I say it's fine and put ds in.
She then looks at me and turn the cold tap on.

I bath him for years but on that day I chose to boil him. Thank god she was there again to save him....

lol, i worked at a nursery and no matter what the weather the kids(the walkers) went out they were just dressed accordingly!
perhaps she thought she would shrink in the rain!

I'll be honest, before we had children, I used to wonder how kids managed to breathe under rain-covers. Used to get quite worried about it!

I forgave my friend because she hasn't any children yet...but I did make a big show of plumping out the air flow thingies!

when my kids shout/yell/cry, my dh's first comment from the other side of the house is 'what you doing to them?'.....'nothing dear, i got one by his throat against a wall and i burning the other with a fag end, is that OK?'

I'm joking btw before someone starts a thread regarding my mistreatment of kids

My PILs came over one day and we picked up S1 form pre school and walked to a cafe for lunch. The DSs were climbing on a wall to walk along an MIL said "Don't do that - you'll get dirty"

Errr... he's 4 years old, has been at pre school all morning painting, gluing, playing in playground, sand pit etc. He has £2 supermarket jeans on - it doesn't matter

Ooooh, this gets my goat too!!!
If either of my little ones have a sniffle, my dad will say " you will keep an eye on them won't you"... or " do you want me to run you to the hospital"

He's hilarious! Mind you, this is the same man that if i'm at my folks house and helping my Mum in the kitchen, he'll come out out and say " you will be careful with the sharp knives won't you..we don't want you cutting your finger off"

Bless him...i'm only 32!!!

We spend as little time with our inlaws as possible for this very reason. They can't seem to accept or appreciate that we are ds's parents not them (I say thm but it's really her)

Ds got hit in the face by a football (one of those thin plastic ones not a heavy leather one) and he was, quite rightly, a little upset. Sil went to take him to mil to which I had to intercept to get my child in my arms to comfort him. Mil then shouted 'Oh my god' just when I had started to calm him down. He then thought his face/head was falling off.....

i love my ils. They are such good grandparents and really take the strain off us when they come and say. The only thing thats gets me is that they always take dps side in arguements about ds upbringing. We are having a big one at the moment about whether it was right to give ds (2.5) a big boys bed.

Its completely obvious and right that they should be so partisan but i feel really got at and ganged up upon when i am with them. I think they think i am doing an okay job but they never come out and say it.

We get told to 'shush, you two' if we even begin to discuss anything...!

My parents and PILs aren't bad like this, but any time DS makes a peep I get told he's hungry.
Thanks. That really hadn't occurred to me. Actually it's not just them, strangers in supermarket car parks have been really helpful in pointing out when he might be peckish too.

YANBU

As a friend of mine say when it rains 'we're not made of sugar or paper'

Besides what children (in not in a pram) dont like splashing inpuddles or holding an brolly?

Like you WW I put the raincover on the pushchair and DD 's fold-away mac comes out. I am the only one who actually gets wet in making sure they are all dry .

Although my MIL would'nt come for a walk anyway as.....well it's a long story, but she just sits in and watches the shopping channel.

Had the opposite problem. DH's well meaning non English speaking German granny hasnt had much to do with babies since 1946. During our visit she fed dd (aged 10 months) crisps. She also took her for a walk in the garden holding her in her arms, which was lovely, except it was tipping down.

Had to bite my lip as didnt want to be the neurotic mum of a pfb but eek!