Vile neighbours

[jacki66]

My severely disabled husband and I bought into a new build estate. Worst mistake ever! We have neighbours from hell. A family who are absolutely harassing us and intimidating us all day every day for the last 11 months. I'm utterly fed up and exhausted as a full time carer to my husband and I work part time too. Any advice?

Call 101. Log your complaints with the police.

If it's bad, call the police. Can you put up cameras (as long as they don't point at anybody else's property) or record any incidents for proof? Do you have support from other neighbours? Make a diary too and date each incident. If they're threatening you, the police will help.

Agree you need to log each crime with 101, it will build up a portfolio for the police which can be used in a harassment case. Get some CCTV installed. Contact your local anti social behaviour team and maybe even the local councillor.
Take care not to take what they say to heart. We had the same kind of problem, ongoing for over 2 years and although very stressful and frustrating you need to remind yourself that you can get through this. It is a reflection of the type of people they are, not you or your husband.
My family were targeted due to disability which is considered a hate crime. Thankfully all was recorded on my phone so I have evidence. Next time it happens take your phone , make them aware that everything they are doing will be recorded.
It is very stressful and soul destroying when you are just trying to get along in life, with the issues you face taking care of your husband, knowing that there are evil people like this just waiting in the wings to make life that little bit harder.

Move.

Honestly the grief these people will cause you won’t be worth it.

If you log a dispute you will have to declare it and you will never sell.

I know people will say stay and fight - but vile people like this never change. You deserve to be happy and to enjoy your home.

So sorry this has happened.

In what way are they harassing you?

What sort of things are they doing that are harassing you and intimidating you all day, every day?

I have so much harassment. Main incident was when adult male pointed at me in my chest whilst my disabled husband was behind me saying "you & your f-ing bins" because I put my recycling bins on a boundary and not over his nor my boundary. He pushed mine over and took over my entire side with his. Petty, but ongoing twice a week for 10 months - EXHAUSTING. Throwing things at our mutual fence and even told me once "you've picked the wrong spot". I have 19 diary pages of single spacing with so many incidents. Moral of the story - vile, can hardly afford to live here and no doubt mortgaged to the hilt, evil anti-English (I'm in Scotland). I have to agree with Dippypippy (good name btw) - move! We've just spent £20K on stamp duty and have to now consider yet another move!

Sorry I know its slightly off topic but the anti English comment has me wondering... 20k on stamp duty?? Doesn't exist in Scotland and what it was effectively replaced by must mean you've got a mansion of a new build for that sort of cost, therefore I'd assume large detached home in most parts of Scotland?

It's hard to give advice with so little info on the actual issues, but have you tried a) speaking to the neighbour in question to clear the air and find out their issue(s) and try to come to compromises, or if this isn't an option, calling 101?

Yes, this must be a £500k home. But I suppose vile people live in even the nicest of neighbourhoods.

I still say move. You can well afford it, even if it means downsizing a little.

Pop the sign up and start looking. You have been unlucky - hopefully the next home will have normal neighbours.

The brilliant news is that the neighbours on the other side of this lot are also having problems! Brilliant in that we can get together to drive this muck out. For everyone's information on here, there is "stamp duty" in Scotland which is substantially higher than England. It is LBTT, the old term is stamp duty and just because the name has changed does not mean the tax has gone away!

Are they renting?
Is there a mediator from the council or community to try to resolve any issues that you won't have to move.
If not, I'd sell up, and downgrade.
Peace is priceless.

As they are affecting both sides I agree team up, strength in numbers.

Get a friend round, ideally with a camera that records.
Go outside with a headscarf wrapped up like oh I don't know. A hijab.
See the neighbours response while it is filmed. Anything that you feel could be islamophobic call police right away. You don't need to be a Muslim to be the victim of islamophpbia. Police will act immediately and their life next door will get a lot hotter. I know.

souwest, what a bizarre suggestion, if he's anti English isn't that discrimination too? if OP is being harrassed then they should call the police and record each incident

@Souwest I am not sure if you're kidding, or are you being passive aggressive.
Are you saying the police care more about a crime against a Muslim woman, than an Englisg woman in Scotland