Namechanged, mainly because i don't want my other posts to be linked to me.
Background - family wedding (husbands side) . No children allowed, which is fine. My husband had decided he will go alone. No discussion, he gave me one option, to leave the kids with his parents (both over 70, dad has just had a nasty fall and broke arm) - his parents don't really know the children, see them once a year, im pretty sure they will say no to looking after them for a good number of hours anyway! He assumes they will say yes.
There are alternatives, we could get a babysitter, and just attend the wedding service and then breakfast without attending the dinner so we can drive back, but he is insisting he should be going on the saturday-sunday, which i suppose is his choice, but im annoyed. He's done this before, for another wedding, i was left behind. He's said its not a jolly - its a wedding. We can afford a sitter, its not a money thing.
Im not from this country, so i don't get to attend my family weddings, and it looks like i don't get to attend weddings with his family either, because i am designated to look after the kids - and yes, of course, i love them and have no issues looking after them, but it just feels like im being left out. again.
Who is being unreasonable?