Background: DP was v. keen woodworker, suffered severe breakdown (work related) some years ago, dismantled his workshop and has never touched wood since. An elderly widowed friend offered us her late husband's complete workshop set-up (widowed 17 years) if we'd collect the machinery and materials from her garage and shed. DP was interested and became quite excited about it. We went to see, asked how much, was told, 'Nothing, all free.' Went yesterday with a van. Friend wanted the damaged workbench dismantled and all the wood offcuts and rubbishy bits loaded first. He did all that, asked if she wanted to keep anything before he loaded the tools and stuff. Yes. She wanted to keep all the equipment (mitre-saw, circular saw, router, etc, etc. all the good wood, materials and hardware. Then she smiled and thanked him for his help. We were gobsmacked. I reminded her what she'd said but she didn't recall it. I'm furious because it has knocked DP right back into the doldrums and I think I ought not to have said anything about it to him in the first place. So, have we been used or do I expect too much of an elderly woman?