*light hearted* AIBU when I'm asleep?

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I sleep very deep and my dp is a light sleeper. Apparently when I'm asleep, I elbow and knee him when I turn over which wakes him up. He then struggles to get back to sleep.

Explanation of elbow and knee: I sleep on my front with one knee up and my hands under the pillow. When he says elbow he means he turns over and face plants my elbow. If I turn over in the night my knee goes back into my normal sleep position whether his back or side is there or not.

He's asked me to be more aware in my sleep, I've explained that I can't as I'm asleep. He believes this to be unreasonable as I should be able to be aware when sleeping.

I think we need a bigger bed as we only have a double. Dp believes this will not stop me hogging the bed and I will continue to elbow or knee him no matter the size.

AIBU to continue to sleep and not be aware of my surroundings?

Yanbu because I sleep exactly the same way and have the same issue with my partner. And you're asleep so can't control what you do!

Honestly this made me laugh. It's 100% our situation atm. But, we laugh about it & are saving for a king/super king bed.

A bigger bed should help, providing you don't sleep really close together in it

You need a superking bed. They're massive.

Bigger bed defo helps. And no you can't be aware when you sleep, you're unconscious. DH claims he can change his breathing even while asleep so he doesn't snore

My dp also believes that he is aware of his surroundings when he is asleep...

I think saving for a super king is an excellent idea 🙌

I am a light sleeper, and am very aware of my surroundings even when asleep. DH is the deep sleeping pointy elbowed one here, and utterly oblivious to the times he shoves an elbow in my ribs or a pillow over my head.

We have a king size bed and it makes all the difference. When we have had to sleep in a standard double, I spend all night teetering on the age to avoid his elbows and knees

Edge, not age...

We have a super king which effectively gives each person a full 3 ft width. It’s bliss. This is what you need.

You need a bigger bed, but in the meantime try my top bed sharing tip - I've done this and recommend it to all my friends, and they've all done it.
The answer is Individual duvets. One single size duvet each, of whatever is your preferred tog rating (we have a summer and winter one each). It gives all the advantages of separate beds while retaining all the advantages of sleeping together, is cheap and easy.
You can thank me later.

We now have a Super king. If dh annoys me I escape to sofa or spare room before I get too cross. Otherwise no more sleep for me. It's shit being a bad sleeper.

Oh yes to separate duvets. I have a 1 tog in summer and 4 in winter..insommnia makes you hot!

My DH would kick me several times per night , he likes to stretch his legs out.
We have separate beds now
Absolute bliss

Ha! I am frequently reprimanded for my "pokey knee" when I'm in Sleep Position. We switched sides and it turns out that his side is loads bigger than mine (there is no logical explanation for this) and suddenly my knee is no longer an issue. You might find the same too...

I sleep that way too. We have a kingsize and the only elbowing happens when DH is snoring too loudly (no bed is big enough to solve that problem!).

Try putting a pillow lengthways between you, like a barrier.

Definitely go super king. Also get the Ikea Hovag mattress for it. Doesn’t cost a lot but it’s so ridiculously comfy you’ll sleep like a baby.

Apparently I have restless legs whilst asleep, I often wake up on my own, with DP on the sofa. I've told him to wake me up if it's disturbing him but he won't. We don't live together yet but am trying to work out a solution for when he does move in. We own a double bed each so don't really want to have to fork out for another bed/separate beds (the bedroom isn't big enough due 2 doubles).