Please help calm my nerves

[Atlanaaan]

I had a lovely first date with a great man last week. I've had my fair share of abusive nasty partners, and this guy initially seems like a breath of fresh air, no suggestive messages, no mention of sex as of yet, just very nice subtle flirting.

I really enjoyed our date and it ran over considerably. I was in his city for work and booked a hotel which I didn't end up staying at because we stayed in a cafe all night chatting!

Now he's on his way to my town which is a two hour drive. Hes explicitly stated he will be staying at an Airbnb he has booked, so we won't be having sex or anything like that.

I'm just so nervous, I feel sick... What happens if the second date is rubbish and I've wasted his time, what happens if we can't speak about anything?! I feel ridiculous I'm mid 30s so not young but u feel like a teenager

Please help me calm my nerves

If that happens then you dont see him again because it wasnt meant to be. It will not be a reflection on you as a person. Then you get yourself up, dust yourself off and get out there again.

when something you feel good in and go with the flow, if it's a good date then fine and if it doesn't workout nothing gained nothing lost.
i wouldn't be on a 2nd date if he had been talking about sex on the first one tbh, take things at your own pace and have a great time.

If you don’t feel it’s going well, become ‘unwell’ during the date- you’ve had to run to the bathroom to be unwell. I’m sure he won’t want to continue the evening then.

Ok you need to trust yourself again. Trust in your powers of conversation - after all last week he spent a whole night chatting to you, that doesnt sound like someone who has nothing to talk about with this man. Also remember, this working is not all on you. Maybe you wont like him. Remember if you're not feeling it for whatever reason, you have the power to say "thanks but no thanks" to this, or any, man just as much as they can say it to you.

You've got this! It sounds slike you have a good connection, hopefully something will come of it. Turn some of those nerves into excitement!

So hows the date going?