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Ticktocksaystheclock · 03/08/2019 09:02

Please give me some advice
My dd is 15 and so far has spent virtually 2 weeks sat in the dark in her bedroom on her phone/ game console
I have taken her shopping, out to the cinema, a dog walk each day just to get her out.

Every school holiday is the same, she says she has no friends or the friends she has don't include her.
Her friends that she has are out each day enjoying themselves swimming in the local River and meeting up with others.

She says it's 'sad' to ask if she can go along with them, so doesn't ask

I've tried to get her to go to one of the many activities, water skiing, paddle boarding, sailing, kayaking on offer near us doesn't want to try to do them as she 'won't enjoy them'

I've offered to pay for a friend to come to a theme park. She's not interested

I've offered to take her on a pgl type activity holiday, she says she's too old ( I took her on one 3 years back and it was fun)
I've even offered to pay for a friend to go on a activity holiday with her, she's not interested

I am nagging at her to do something, anything to get out of her room and meet up at least once with friends

She has no hobbies apart from her phone and computer
She's given up on dance, guides because they were boring

The thought of 4 more weeks of dark room loneliness is making me sad, and I know I'm.pressurising her but I don't know what to do.

I'm not liking myself for constantly going on about it

OP posts:
Emilizz34 · 03/08/2019 09:07

Is your daughter being excluded by her friends or is she isolating herself?
It sounds to me like she may have depression. What’s her mood like generally?

IceRebel · 03/08/2019 09:27

Do you know what she's doing on her phone and computer for so long, if all of her friends are out meeting up?

Ticktocksaystheclock · 03/08/2019 09:35

She's playing Minecraft and makes ticktock videos which can take hours.

She seems perfectly happy doing this

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Adversecamber22 · 03/08/2019 09:41

The activities you have offered are all water based plus her friends are swimming, maybe she just hates water.

All I can suggest is trying to interact with her more about stuff she likes by asking about the game she is playing. Do you know what games she plays? I’m a gamer, have been for forty years, I do go out a lot with friends though but am aware of gaming addiction and have no lifed as it’s called a new game or dlc before. I would absolutely game all the time but I know it’s not socially acceptable. Teenagers do seem to get fixated on things. She may have gaming friends online. That’s ok but women that game online do face a lot of harassment in game, just be aware of that.

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