Have had a massive row with my DB this week, which is kinda the last straw for me in terms of our relationship and I don’t really care if we ever make it up.
He’s a really selfish person, never does anything for anyone without there being something in it for himself, but yet will happily ask others to put themselves out for him.
He’s always been argumentative and is annoyingly superior and arrogant when he wants to be (most of the time). Last week he started a row with my other siblings over something really ridiculous that had nothing to do with him, and carried it on to this week including dragging me into it and insulting us all. Turned into a total shit show slanging match and very upsetting for all involved (on the receiving end of his bitterness).
We were due to go to the coast tomorrow (myself, DH, my siblings & their DC, him and his wife) on a trip I arranged. Due to this horrible row during which he has been disgustingly aggressive and no apologies following, I text him yesterday saying he was longer welcome (told his wife separately that she was still welcome but obviously understand if she can’t come).
To which his response was he was delighted as he had no interest (despite sending the balance of the cost this week to me). I returned all the cash he send for his stay.
Anyway today his wife has been txting me asking can we not make it up etc as she’s been looking forward to this weekend for ages. To which I’ve responded saying take it up with your husband as it’s up to him to try make amends (he won’t as he refuses to see what he did wrong).
I’m exhausted from the energy draining of it all and am just sick of him. I don’t see bad behaviour should be excused and from what I can see for years my whole family put up with his bad behaviour and row causing crap with zero consequences for him because everyone wants to ‘get along’.
My DH and friend who knows the story keeps telling me life is too short for rows and family first blah blah but my attitude is why should some people be allowed to act badly, cause rows and upset people and no one pulls them up on it?
I’m happy to now lose contact with him unless he decides to apologise and make amends for the upset he’s caused this week (very unlikely).
Basically has anyone been in the same position with a sibling? Why should I continue to put up with him? I’m happy to go NC with him as it really won’t impact my life any way but positively given I’m only removing tension and resentment and he adds nothing positive. But I don’t want to regret it in the future even if he is the one making is almost impossible to keep a civil relationship.