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To ask DM to stop buying my DC kinder eggs?

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pipnchops · 02/08/2019 16:59

We see my DM every week and she always gives my DC age 2 and 4 a kinder egg. They love getting them and have come to expect them when they see her. They scoff the chocolate but really couldn't care less about the toy. I don't mind her giving them a treat when she sees them but it's the plastic tat I can't cope with. I have made comments about them not seeming fussed about the toy and they'd be just as happy with chocolate buttons and she replied that they're not special enough. Can I outright ask her to stop buying kinder eggs or is that ungrateful and mean?

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IsobelRae23 · 02/08/2019 17:05

Just tell- her- stop buying them and if you must buy a treat, then buy some buttons.
Or the next time, take the toys and put them straight in the bin and say ‘they aren’t interested in them’.

Justsee · 02/08/2019 17:06

Just chuck the tat in the bin. No coping required.

adaline · 02/08/2019 17:08

Why does it matter? Just chuck the toys in the bin Confused

InTheHeatofLisbon · 02/08/2019 17:08

Bin the toys? Seems the easiest way.

Mine were the opposite, didn't give a shit about the chocolate but loved the wee toys! Shame we don't live closer OP I could give your lot the chocolate and you could dump the toys on mine Grin

middleeasternpromise · 02/08/2019 17:10

Harsh - it's her thing, their thing! The waste is an issue though perhaps you can raise your children to aware of throwing away plastic then they can tell Grandma why they aren't a good treat. If you make the fuss when everyone else is getting pleasure out of it - you will be the meanie. Is it worth that much trouble? As others say collect up the toys and get rid, the chocolate appears to be sorted - or is there a bigger issue you have with Grandma?

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pipnchops · 02/08/2019 17:15

Ok getting the impression I'm BU. No other issues with grandma. Not keen on the waste that's all. I have quite a collection of these toys in a big box that occasionally they tip out and play with.

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JammyMe · 02/08/2019 17:16

I don’t think something like this would bother meConfused Nannan here is always buying treats/ tat for the kids- what they want I keep, and what they don’t gets binned!

BeanBag7 · 02/08/2019 17:18

"Just bin the toys" is quite wasteful. I dont think YABU, is there anything more "special" than chocolate buttons that you could suggest?

MillicentMartha · 02/08/2019 17:18

Single use plastic, anyone?

Fairylea · 02/08/2019 17:18

Just bin the toys. I wouldn’t say anything.

DeepDarkWoods · 02/08/2019 17:19

I think its so sad that people are saying chuck it in the bin. Its just such a waste, all that energy gone into making something for it to end up in the bin. Im sure she would mind if you told her what they would prefer.

Gustavo1 · 02/08/2019 17:19

I can see how it could seem you are BU as it’s just a little treat but I do agree with you on the tat. If only because many people are trying really hard to cut down on single use plastics and a kinder egg normally has both the egg and the toy which go to landfill.

For a similar price to a kinder egg, your mum could get a chocolate lolly or a gingerbread man or something. A special treat but no tat.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 02/08/2019 17:20

I love Kinder Eggs. There was a bit of a campaign to get them to use less plastic, but I don't think it got much traction.

DeepDarkWoods · 02/08/2019 17:20

Wouldnt mind

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pipnchops · 02/08/2019 17:23

I used to live kinder eggs too and don't see the problem with them as an occasional treat, just feel uneasy about it being every week and the way my girls just don't care about the toy, it seems to wasteful. I don't want to throw them in the bin for reasons mentioned by others but the collection we have is getting huge!

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adaline · 02/08/2019 17:24

If the waste bothers you, can you not donate them to charity or to a woman's refuge or similar?

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pipnchops · 02/08/2019 17:24

Agree i maybe need to suggest an alternative special treat, chocolate lolly is a good idea.

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pipnchops · 02/08/2019 17:25

Good idea to donate them... Just not sure if anyone would want them!

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Passthecherrycoke · 02/08/2019 17:25

I have the best memories of visiting an uncle who always used to buy us cornettos every visit. It was such a reliable treat and a great childhood memory.

If I were you I would bin the plastic and let mum be kinder gran

theSnuffster · 02/08/2019 17:25

My MIL insists on buying LOL dolls for DD. That's plastic waste in the extreme. The actual toy isn't played with, it's all about the excitement of unwrapping it. Leaving loads of packaging to go in the bin and hundreds of pounds worth of these silly dolls that she doesn't play with.

atomicnotsoblonde · 02/08/2019 17:27

We have the same. Every now and again I take the bag of toys to the charity shop. They're sold for 10p a go and sober little one is happy with tat for pennies. No need to make a fuss x

Loopytiles · 02/08/2019 17:27

I would say - or ask DH to say - that you’re concerned about the plastic waste, that the DC have more than enough toys, and that if she does want to buy them weekly sweet foods you would prefer something different.

Loopytiles · 02/08/2019 17:27

Surprised the charity shops want these crappy toys, our local ones wouldn’t!

atomicnotsoblonde · 02/08/2019 17:27

*clearly the children are sober... I mean SOME little one...

ifpossible · 02/08/2019 17:28

Why not ask her to buy them the Kinder bars instead? A pack is about the same price as one egg & far better value. You could take that approach by saying they love the chocolate but seems such a shame the toy goes to waste. Plus I also feel your pain about the build up of useless plastic crap!