Is he infatuated with her ?

[Bbqblues]

My partner in f ten months speaks about his female friend ALL THE TIME.im sick of it.i think he has her in a pedestal. It’s so boring.she is a middle aged married mother of kids who he works with all
Day long.she is the funniest, wittiest and most INtelligent woman he has ever met !very insulting.she is attractive I suppose despite being years older than him but he could talk about her and text her all day long if she would respond to him. I recently saw on fb that he likes and loves and comments on every post, whereas it is as if I am not a part of his life in his feed. We are fb friends but he doesn’t like social media interaction with a girlfriend as he thinks of ta cheesy . I told him that it upsets me so he seems to have stopped . I told him his sending her stupid jokes on what’s app upset me sans I think he has toned it down but he is like a love sick puppy since he toned down. WTf is going on in his head?

Sounds like has an unrequited thing for her. I wouldnt want to be with him as it sounds like he likes her more than you 😕

You should be asking what is going on in yours! If he is a 'love sick puppy' then why are you accepting the crumbs? Why bother? It's only been 10 months so just sack him off.

If however, he simply has a female friend that you are uber sensitive about then it's your issue to deal with.

This kind of mentionitis is always a bad sign IME. I'd bin him if I were you and save a lot of heartache in the long run as it sounds like he sees her as more than just a female friend. At the very least, he's being very disrespectful of you.

Ah men men men. He should be besotted with you OP and i'm sorry but 99% of the time if a partner thinks sharing his partner on fb is 'cheesy' then in other words, he would rather keep your relationship low key so he can seem approachable and available to others. You've got to either have a serious chat about him sorting the fuck out, or get rid.

Sounds like he has feelings for her. Sorry OP

Sorry OP - yes he is.
He clearly knows he cannot have her, & is nobly allowing you to be a placeholding second best.

he doesn’t like social media interaction with a girlfriend as he thinks of ta cheesy

FFS he is coming over like a married man having an affair. Does he not want the world to know that you are his g/f?

It's not cheesey to fawn doglike over another woman's every posting though?!
@Bbqblues - I am so sorry, but what is in this relationship for you?
He has already relegated you to 2nd place (if that, as you are not even allowed to interact with His Nibs on sm).

Please don't sacrifice any more of your time on this lightweight.
He is not going to change, he is disrespectful to constantly talk about a 3rd party in your time together, & at 10 months duration he really ought to be showing some signs of infatuation with his g/f, not some random bird at work.

You can do better. Leave him to his empty fantasy life.

she is attractive I suppose despite being years older than him

Is she 35 or 75?

Early forties .

Bin him off, he's definitely infatuated with her. You deserve better than being 2nd best.

After only 10 months, I'd dump him over this.

I wouldn't be happy being second best

Mentionitis.

After only ten months of dating, really not a good sign.

I think you need to have a serious conversation with him, because it is both disrespectful and cruel. I it was me I would probably have split with him already.

You should probably leave him. You seem too insecure to deal with a man that is obsessed with someone else and he clearly isn’t moral enough to care how upsetting this is for his girlfriend. Why torture yourself?